Butterflies in my stomach, inability to sleep. Hope that I would make the grade, nerves that I would not.
Anxiety about being blamed for something I was ignorant about.
Trepidation about being judged, eager for praise, terrified of being reprimanded.
Did the baby gain enough weight? Did the baby gain enough weight?
I study the nurse’s face as she places him on the scale. I see a flicker of concern in her eyes. I think, “The weight is bad.” How the hell am I supposed to know how much the baby is supposed to weigh?...more
You have pumping rights when you return to work!Your employer is required to provide you with “reasonable break time” to express your milk for the first year of your baby’s life. Your employer must also provide you with a place to pump that is free from intrusion and shielded from view. And, no, this place cannot be the bathroom. (I don’t prepare my lunch in the bathroom, do you?)Below are the requirements that employers must observe for a nursing mother for the first year after her child’s birth....more
Is this real? Is this precious baby really here? Alive?I stare at my baby through the clear plastic wall that contains him, feeling a similar plastic wall around my heart. My mind knows he is mine. Logically, I know he is here. He is safe. But my heart—my heart is not yet so trusting....more
For the past five years, I have run a weekly support group for new breastfeeding moms. This isby far one of my most favorite things. Typically, eight to 12 moms with babies four-months and younger come to group. We sit in a circle and one by one, each mom introduces herself and her baby. She gives us a back story of her breastfeeding journey and she gets the chance to ask me and the other moms questions about breastfeeding....more
The moment I hear her weight spoken, I panic. Two ounces less. Two ounces too few. Two ounces.How does a baby lose weight after eating? How is my body not making enough milk? I fed her for hours, for days. Every two hours, around the clock, like I was supposed to. When was the last time I slept? Am I eating enough? Drinking enough water? I must be doing something wrong, because this isn’t supposed to happen this way!...more
Breastfeeding. It’s all sweet and dear and precious in the beginning.Or it’s terrible and your nipples bleed and the baby won’t latch and the engorgement makes you feel like a porn star.Whichever....more
For how many months have you been breastfeeding?How many days is that?How many times a day do you breastfeed?How many hours a day do you spend breastfeeding?How many total hours have you breastfed your baby since she was born?Now, that is a lot of time spent breastfeeding, huh? How many pictures do you have of breastfeeding? How many of those include you in the picture?Many women look back and wish they had more pictures taken of them breastfeeding their child....more
Baby nursing every hour for a few hours each day? Does your baby have a fussy time for a few hours every day? Does your baby drive you crazy every evening?You’re not alone.Most babies have a “witching hour” or fussy time each day. For most babies, this is in the evening, but it can be at any time of the day. The good news? This usually only last for the first 6-12 weeks of baby’s life....more
You might not be enjoying breastfeeding because you and your partner aren’t connecting. Perhaps one or both of you think that is because of breastfeeding.I wanted this blog post to be about your partner. I want to give you some really deep insights about how your partner’s support or lack of support can really affect your level of breastfeeding enjoyment.But, I can’t. Why? Because I don’t know anything about daddies. I talk to mamas all the time about their feelings, their struggles, and their fears. I feel like I get you ladies....more