The Change Challenge

Without change women would not be voting, not working outside the home, not wearing yoga pants and certainly not writing blogs about gender observations.  I think that there are three fundamental change agent drivers for us humans. We can be motivated by one, two, or all three at once but without one of these nudging us along, status quo prevails....more

You're Doing It Wrong: Stop trying to change him

Many people, myself included, love a challenge. Tell me I can’t name all 50 state capitals or put my elbows together behind my back and I’ll jump at the chance to prove you wrong. Give me an words-written-per-hour goal and I’ll do my best to double it. I imagine the thrill of a challenge is among the reasons people run marathons, attempt souffle or decide to get multiple dogs for their one-bedroom apartment. Then there are the people who, upon meeting and subsequently dating someone, take up the challenge of changing another human being....more

Change: The Only Game in Town

Erica works for a company that is always changing and it makes her crazy. “Why can't things just stay the same? Why is there always something that has to be done differently? What is wrong with the way it is now? I want to do my job one way, every day. Instead, my head is spinning,” she tells me....more

How Blogging Has Changed My Life

NaBloPoMo – BlogHer – March 2014Monday, March 10, 2014 How has blogging changed your life? Tell us one thing that is different now than from before you started blogging.~~~~~~~~Blogging has helped me hone my writing skills. I started blogging fifteen-months ago, after a 30-plus years hiatus. I had continued journaling, nearly every day, but writing for the public had been nearly non-existent....more

The Change in my Son

I wrote this, originally, 2 years ago -- thought it might help other parents:My oldest was having a horrible time in school. Couldn't finish projects, following directions, his grades were falling fast. I was at a complete loss — he is so bright; an 85 year old scientist trapped in an 8 year body. It was baffling.His teacher did so many things to help him get on task and focus, but nothing worked....more

New Year New Heat

So I have gone back to exercise class after the break.I have decided to tweak stuff a little more: I am adding heat to my diet! They say that your metabolism, when you are over 50,may need a little help, and upping your intake of spicy food might help.Taking one tiny step for me, I had jalapeno cheese this morning.Granted I know I am going to have afterthoughts about eating this, but I figure you have to start somewhere.I’ll keep you posted....more

Crosspost: Imagination Apps as a Tool for Change

Feeling Stuck? Turn AroundWhen I am trying to change my perspective or behavior in a specific way, having a visual representation that I can upload to my mind is a big help. Think of it as a kind of imagination app—an image or scene that supports and guides us through new, uncomfortable territory....more

Reverb 2013 - Day 13

One day left. Well, one day for me anyway. Today's prompt:Favorite things: Give us a list of your favorite things from 2013. Could be material items, food, people, anything!...more

Reverb 2013 - Day 3

My low point.I think my lowest point this year was when both Baby and I were sobbing simultaneously. I had been struggling and struggling, trying to get things right, then just trying to get things....more