I Will Not Take These Things for Granted

My daughter beat me yesterday.  She hit me so hard I got the wind taken out of me for an hour.  Tears welled in my eyes, but I didn’t let them fall.  Okay, she didn’t hit me physically, but she beat me with her words.   No need to call me, CPS, it was innocent.  Innocent for her, but complex and painstaking for me.  It’s a sign of what’s yet to come when she is a tween or, even worse, a teenager.  She said, “I don’t want to sit with you, Mommy.  I want to sit with my Daddy.” (There was a strong and loud emphasis on “my”.)   ...more


Melinda Reynolds Tripp Author of What Should You ? Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty-First Century Tate Publishing 2012 , Amazon This caught my attention! Child in the news, sang his address for 911 operator... This is how I recommend you teach toddlers, preschoolers to memorize a favored number or address, use a known tune with your rhymed word to make a safety song. My grandson uses his Dad's cell number, the number ends in a one, so we ended the song with" that's my Daddy I'm his son!" Try it, let me know how it works! ...more

New Labels: Widow, Single Parent

When a spouse dies and you have children two things happen at once. You become a widow(er), and a single parent. Simultaneously.Overnight I adopted new labels. One moment I was married. The next I was not only widowed, but the sole care provider for our daughter.What do these new labels mean? Do they mean anything at all? I would say it depends on the day. If I am missing my husband, my friend, I feel quite widowed. Other days I accept that he is gone and I embrace that I am single. Single-with-experience....more
I hate the word widow.  That one word makes me feel so powerless.  I hate the single status too ...more

One Huge Little Word

The other night, while C and I were busying ourselves with evening chores (packing Em’s lunch, cooking dinner, briefly contemplating folding massive amounts of laundry, trying to scrape unidentifiable gook off the coffee table…) Emmy was entertaining herself with one of her beloved toys....more

a child shall lead them...

A new routine has begun in our home.It all started when a friend of ours sent her usual Christmas gift to our kids...books. {Happy dancing all around!} One of those books was a devotional, Jesus Calling, for kids. The irony being...it's the exact same devotional I started reading this year. {Well, the 'adult' version, that is.}...more

Did I Say It Was Okay To Use A Nickname?

My friends insist on using a nickname for my son “Alex” but I prefer the full name “Alexander.” Should I just give up? ...more
When I was a child, my parents did not want nicknames for me or my siblings. My father in ...more

Please Sleep

Z has taken up a new hobby.She likes to get up as early as possible, say, oh, 4:30 AM. She doesn't wake us up like she used to. No, now she gets up, goes to the only TV in the house, turns on the Playstation, logs in to Netflix and watches shows that she is not allowed to watch.Shows like Family Guy, American Dad, Futurama, and, recently, Ren & Stimpy....more

Dear Red One and Blue One

It should come as no surprise that I find you repulsive. Both of you. You're nothing more than soiled, foul-smelling loops of cheap terrycloth. Red, you're pretty much a joke. You were part of a four-pack sold at the Dollar Store! The baseball emblem that was so feebly embroidered upon you will soon be completely unraveled.  Blue, you were a resented purchase. You were expensive and in my eyes, unnecessary. Look at you now: The white half of the Pokeball isn't even white anymore. Despicable. ...more

Funny Girl

The things that Z says are always pretty funny and several people have told me that I should write it down so that I can remember it as she gets older.Z likes to play with a miniature measuring tape. When she sees boys that she thinks are interesting, she attempts to measure them. The boys typically will take an interest in her measuring tape and measure her.Proudly they will announce, "You are 48."Z will snap around, snatch the measuring tape and declare, "No, I am 3 and a half." Then she will stomp off....more

School Rule: No Kids Left Behind

When I was a child, we didn’t have a school rule requiring parents to designate student emergency contacts.  If our parents weren’t available to pick us up from school, we simply waited in the nurse’s office until they were.I once waited the entire day.  By the time my mom finally showed up, my stomach flu had passed....more