Reaching Beyond Your Limits - The 5th Practice of Mid-Life Revivification

 “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~e.e. cummings Jeez, you ask…how much more can I do?...more

Mom Knew Best - Liver and Onions - Ew!!!

Practice #2 Eating Naturally – not from boxes ...more

Should We Have a Baby?

Note from Lou: Since I’m doing NaBloPoMo, I’ve enlisted some help from writer-friends. I met Ali five years ago in graduate school (my second graduate program, which is another story). Anyway, I ended up quitting (she graduated), but she and I have stayed friends. The decision to have kids is one I definitely struggled with, and this is often a topic of conversation between Ali and me at our Corner Bakery lunches. I thought her story would be a great perspective for this site....more

I Missed The Have A Baby Deadline.. Now What?

Two years ago in August I went in for my first surgery relating to my cancer. During my follow up appointment, my Dr. talked to me about having kids. This wasn’t an unusual conversation for us. Earlier in the process I had to decide if I wanted to have kids, and that’s how we determined my course of treatment. What made this conversation different than the others? For the first time in months, he set out a timeline for me. Ideally I would be pregnant in two years....more
Denise thank you so much Denise! I'm happier for it.more

Saying No

“No,” she said, without any hesitation, anger, irritation, or energy about making a point. There wasn’t even an implied question mark at the end to ask if it was okay that she was saying “no,” or a trailing off as though she was regretful or might change her mind. She didn’t rationalize or justify her “no.” It was simply “no.”...more

Throwing The Baby Out With The Bath Water

Hey don't do that! There's a baby still in there! A sweet, baby who needs time to grow. Don't worry about the water that has been thrown out. There will be more water. Water that is sweeter, cleaner, and more refreshing than before, but if you throw the baby out, how will she ever experience what's to come?Please relax and think for a moment if you have ever been somewhere and everything was perfect? Where the people were all pleasant and funny? Where the program or whatever you were attending was setup exactly as you would have done? Where the air smelled sweeter?...more

Do you like number one or number two?

I recently went for my annual eye exam. My vision is poor, even without all that blue light at night, so I try to be as good to my eyes as possible. I have a good rapport with my eye doctor; she is amazingly gentle with the battery of vision and pressure tests and she understands why I giggle during the main vision test (thanks, Brian Regan)....more

It’s just a phase

Phases. We go through many of them as parents. Some breeze on by before we give them much more than a second thought. Others – whether or short or long-lived – cause us worry and occupy our minds and hearts as we’re trying to tell ourselves, “It’s just a phase.”...more

Retirement-the Advanced Class

A co-worker just came by and announced someone in management is retiring tomorrow.“Good”, I said.I agree with the get out of Dodge quick theory.After all, you have worked your years and you should be able to make your own call. Some people may not want to leave, but feel it is time. Others want to get on with their own life and leave it all behind.Not everyone is looking for a party.It shouldn’t be taken personally, because when it comes your turn, you want to go out the way you’d want to go.Just cherish the good times and learn from the bad....more

Making peace with my past

Everyone, or almost everyone, looks back at different parts of their life at times. I never met anyone who said they didn’t.Being at middle age, I have parts of my past that, perhaps, I would have done differently. There are choices that would have had different outcomes,..I don’t know, you just go over things and examine the different variables.Please don’t take this the wrong way: I am loving my life and thank God every day for Jim and my girls....more