The Lost Art of a Two-Way Conversation

Did you ever try to talk with people who ask your advice, only to have them talk over you and negate every thought or tidbit you shared, or worse argue that what you are saying won’t work -  even if you are just chatting? Because hey you were sharing your thoughts per their request. I hate it when that happens. And listen, it’s not that I care if you take my advice or not - although I do care about you - it’s your need to shoot it down instead of just conversing. Graciousness is a good trait. ...more

Who are they talking to?

By now, I think I have mentioned that my son is a talker enough times that I will have to apologize to him when he turns into a teenager for labeling him that way....more

Relationship tips: Communication can be silent, just notice it

There was a moment right after our third daughter was born that I will never forget. Knowing everything I know now, it was a comedy. In the moment, it was one of the sweetest things I had experienced....more

Why I need my Mom to talk to me

I have a girl's weekend at the beach twice a year. It is a relaxing, wonderful time. We work on photo albums, read, catch up on each other's lives and enjoy too much good food. I'm trying to get my Mother to go with me next time and I may have finally won her over. ...more

Bombs Away: The Anatomy of a Text-Grenade

They say that the first step is admitting you have a problem. So, I have a problem. I’ve tried to stop on my own but this thing is bigger than I am—I can stop, I just can’t stay stopped. Every time I do it, I wake up the next morning remorseful and I swear that I’ll never do it again. But then I do....more

Relationship Destroying Behavior: 6 Tips for Defending Against Defensiveness

There are four behaviors so deadly to a relationship, be it a romantic, familial, or business, that they have been called ‘The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse’ by relationship expert, John Gottman, Ph.D. This is the third in a series of articles devoted to understanding the impact of each of these behaviors. I’ve included tips, tools and strategies to help you reduce the impact of the behaviors, which are:...more

Why you need to change your tone

Jerry Seinfeld has a very funny bit about the many tones of marriage. Basically, it boils down to where he is not supposed to use his normal speaking tone when communicating with his wife, as she considers it too harsh....more
When I'm pointing out what my husband forgot to do. If I'm tired I might have a pretty harsh ...more

Do You Ask Your Spouse’s Permission…

I agree with your calling it being considerate, and with your husband's definition. That's what ...more

I'm talking to myself

My son is in his room, talking away. He is talking about exploring a cave and there is treasure in the cave and he will need to gather some weapons to fight off any monsters or dragons that are guarding the treasure. But not the pet dragon that he has - that one he will not need to fight off, because it is a guard dragon similar to the pet tigers that guard his secret lair...It is quite an elaborate setup for a game. But, the truth remains: He is talking to himself....more

For the record: Thanks, honey

What would you change about your spouse? Is it the way he leaves dishes in the sink? Or the way she leaves hair all over the bathroom floor? Think about the items in your marriage you wish were a little better. (Please don't email me a list or anything.) ...more
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