Is That a GOOD Naked?

Randy and I got together nearly five years ago. (By "got together," I suppose I mean that we started spending time together and couldn't stop talking, so decided to make the conversation lifelong. It has been an awesome idea!)  At the time he owned a fairly large house, and I lived in a small apartment but was renting a storage space for the belongings I had kept from my previous ownership of a larger home....more

Mr. and Ms. Communication

I am a typical female.  I hear 95% of everything anyone says, I process it in my chaotic, busy brain, I store it in the appropriate compartment or break it down into lists, all the while talking a mile a minute and carrying on a witty conversation.It’s how my brain works.  It’s how most women’s brains work....ContinueLanita Moss A Mother's Hood ...more

Love Like an Ocean: Diving Deep into Polyamory

Before she knew what polyamory was, she thought she was defective and unfit to be in a relationship. After years of disappointing her partners, she resigned herself to remaining single. And then she discovered that love could take many more forms than monogamy. This is her story. ...more
What do you do when you know that you want to spread your love polyamorusly but your partner who ...more

Dr. Romance on: Getting To Yes

Dr. Romance writes: The average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument.  You can become a much more effective communicator by using what I call the  attentive speaking technique, a simple and highly effective way to improve your communication  with your partner, your children, or extended family, or co-workers. ...more

Is anyone listening?

The TV talks to us. And at us...The iPods are plugged into our ears jumbling our brains with drum beats and guitar strings. The cell phones ring incessantly. Laptops and iPads  demand our attention. Traffic noises overwhelm us...voices shout and scream and  chatter 24/7. We talk all the time! Is anyone listening?What do we hear...actually? "You aren't listening to me!" is a refrain we hear all too often. Spouses say this to each other...children to parents and vice versa.  Colleagues and friends to each other...and citizens to their leaders......more

Dear Dr. Romance: I want to break-up with him, but I don't know how

Dear Dr. Romance:I heard you on the radio and I have a relationship question for you. I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years, I care for him deeply. However, I am not happy. I want to break-up with him, but I don't know the best way to do it and not hurt him. I would still like to remain friends with him, or is this just wishful thinking? Dear Reader:...more

Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot

Dear Dr. Romance:I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented constantly about other females and tried to entice me into threesomes, or at least get me interested in having one....more

Patiently Waiting

My boyfriend and I are playing the waiting game. We are waiting for something to happen, waiting to make a move, waiting for a sign.  ...more

Forgive, Forget and Move On?

It’s funny how relationships have ups and downs, highs and lows and yet they usually seem to balance themselves back out. It doesn’t always happen overnight; it might take some planning, some working, some talking, and some fighting; but eventually the world makes sense again.  Today, all is right with the world. Today, there is harmony again. Today, we are back to neutral. Today, everything is OK. Yesterday, we could have been screaming, fighting, yelling, arguing—but that was yesterday....more

Needing My Partner In My Relationship

I’m over it. I’m over him saying one thing and doing another. Or better yet, saying one thing and not doing anything at all. Just when I think we’ve made progress in our relationship and moving toward doing what is best for the relationship, something happens that pushes us further apart. And I can’t help but think he is the culprit–I can’t help but think he is pushing us apart. He is not intentionally being destructive to our relationship, but ignorantly....more

I hear you, Brooke. Been there. I spent the bulk of my first marriage doing everything I could ...more