7 Secrets For Leaving Better Voicemail Messages

If you’re like most business people, you leave voicemail messages all day long but you’re rarely given much thought to how you’re doing it.  Voicemail can be a great way to save time, but it can also create unintended negative results if you’re unaware of a few bad habits.  Here are 7 secrets to leaving better voicemail messages. ...more

Family Meetings

Every member of your family has a right to have his or her opinions respected. You don’t have to agree or go along with what your child wants, but you should at least know what it is, and your child should know why you're overriding his or her preferences. Regular family meetings, where everyone including the children expresses feelings, negative and positive, and all of you work together to solve problems, can help a lot....more

Can You Hear Me Now?

It is the bane of every mother's existence-- the question repeated a million times a day:  Did you hear me?  Sometimes it sounds more like "what did I just say to you?!" or "do I need to repeat myself?!"  No matter how you ask this question, it all boils down to the same idea-- IS ANYONE LISTENING TO ME IN THIS GODFORSAKEN PLACE!!!!! If you have to ask, the answer is probably NO. ...more

Are You Having a Conversation on Facebook?

In a new window, go open your Facebook account and bring up the news feed that contains people's status updates. And now let's do a little test with the top 10 statuses. Taking into account your relationship with the person, is their current status update an appropriate first line to a conversation? ...more
I suppose this is why I rarely post status messages on Facebook. I'll use it to share links or ...more

The Five Fingers of Listening: Teaching Kids Listening Skills

I often hear this phrase in my therapy room, but Edith, “My kid just won’t listen to me.” Parents of little ones are frustrated, tired after a long day at work and the last thing they need is their child ignoring their requests. So, if you find yourself discouraged with the current situation, I hope the following helps bring things into a new perspective....more

The Great Letter Writing Campaign

To send a letter is a good way to go somewhere without moving anything but your heart. ~Phyllis TherouxA letter can make a person's day or break a person's heart.Consider a sincerely felt thank you letter. You are letting the person know that you appreciate the thought and effort they put into giving you a gift. You are telling them you know and appreciate the time it took to show you how much they care. You are showing them that you care that they care....more

Your Baby Isn't Trying to Annoy You; She's Crying to Communicate

On a recent trip to the park, I overheard a parent ranting and raving about a little one “being a brat and always pitching fits.” It took me less than two seconds of looking at the child to realize his mother had put him down on hot asphalt without shoes on, and his "fit" was actually cries of pain as he danced around trying to keep his poor little feet off the asphalt while trying to push past his mommy to get back into the car. In a few years this mother will wonder why her ten-year-old is always so sullen and silent....more
I think it's important to note that kids get your overall intentions, even if you make one or ...more

Communication 101 for Wives: Part 1

Saying good-byeApparently I need to expand this series to include wives and oversights that they we may have. These are not deficiencies in any way. It’s just that we’re busy. We have a lot on our minds. It’s not our fault. Do I sound defensive?...more

Expression …

Often times, when we hear the word expression we think about our facial expression. It is indeed our most basic type of expression. According to smithsonianmag.com, facial expression, “ is an ability latent within us all—never lost, merely forgotten. No government security program, nor any computer network ever likely to be conceived, could possibly match the effectiveness of millions of ordinary people simply making conversation and looking one another in the face.”...more
Another thought just crossed my mind ... writing is also a healing tool for some of us ... way ...more

Communication 101 for Husbands: Part 1*

Texting your loved oneLet me preface the explanation by assuring you that while I was a) texting in the car, I was not b) driving. I was stopped at a red light. The longest red light in the universe or maybe just my town; so I had time to read and respond to the message I heard dinging at me several minutes earlier while I was driving.When texting your wife/spouse do not do this:...more