Do We Really Want Healthier Relationships?

When do you get to the point that you realize what you are doing in your relationships are not working? How long does it take until you see a pattern with the way your intimate relationships keep failing? When is it okay to say, “hey, I know I need help, let me allow myself to find it?” If we read fitness articles and work out to have a healthy body, why not read about and do new things to have healthier relationships? When do you get to the point where you say, “stop already, tell me how to do it a better way?” Why do people sometimes get sex confused with intimacy?...more

Affirmation

"No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye.  No bye bye."I remember the days when I yearned for them to start to talk.  I wanted so badly to understand them, as they intrinsically understood me."No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go.  No go...more

A Little Stretching Goes a Long Way: The Yoga of Healthy Relationships

For the second week in a row, I stood shivering outside my boyfriend’s  apartment, waiting for him to come home. I saw his lateness as symptomatic. I knew he cared for me. Yet I wondered if he anticipated the consequences of his actions on my feelings. “What do you want me to do?” he said in exasperation. His question hung in the air for several seconds. Then I spotted his yoga mat, and the answer slipped off my tongue. “Emotional yoga,” I said. “Emotional what?” he replied, perplexed....more

A nice reminder to practice off the mat all that you learn on. (Although, I do think it is very ...more

Maybe I DO need an iPad after all

So I've mostly pooh-poohed the idea of the iPad - I mean sure, they look really cool and fun to play with and stuff, but did I NEED one? No. I've got 2 pcs and a netbook. I can't afford an iPhone or any kind of smart phone, but I haven't really noticed that I'm missing out on anything except playing Angry Birds or word games and frankly I don't have time for that anyway. But then today, I saw that the iPad has apps for disabled kids. I teared up at the thought that after 15 years, I might finally be able to communicate with my non-verbal son. ...more

Are you growing apart?

You used to be so happy together; now you feel as if you are drifting apart.  You don’t talk as easily; you don’t feel as connected.  You may even be wondering if you should stay in this relationship…...more

How to say goodbye with a smile?

I remember how I dreaded the same time each morning when I was unsuccessfully trying to leave my daughter at preschool in order to beat work on time. She was extremely creative in how she communicated this short message of “Don’t leave!”  to me. She cried, held my leg, lay on the floor,  and even tried to verbally manipulate me verbally with: “I love you so much and I want to be only with you”. Experiencing this day after day was very stressful. Leaving your child crying and screaming leaves a bitter taste in your mouth for the rest of the day....more

Foreigners from the Womb

 Babies learn language in a way I never remember learning anything.  Having nothing to go on, it's clear they understand words and phrases before they can make their tongues say those words and phrases.  And when they do start speaking, it's in approximations.  Their brains take what they think they heard and make it a word.  And that word sticks.Much of my toddlers' unique pronounciation comes from skipping letters or syllables.  Step becomes sep.  Foot becomes foo.  Dora becomes Doe-a.  Video is vidi....more

Hanging On

As I was making breakfast this morning, I heard my babies take direction from Dora and repeat after her in clear English, "Bridge.  Tree.  Tall Mountain."  My heart twinged a little bit.  Nothing documents the extremely fast passage of time like a baby growing up.  It's bittersweet for me.  Their baby babble is disappearing.  Soon, they'll be able to express themselves clearly at all times.  The made-up phrases that only I can understand will vanish, replaced by the correct words for those desires.They're putting words together now, in...more

Haha! Fwustwated. That's amazing!more

Guardian Hippo

My friend Esther recently returned from a trip to Tanzania, Africa, where she and a friend had the privilege of watching the Great Migration in the Serengeti. It was the trip of a lifetime as they saw an amazing array of people, scenery and animals –including elephants that woke them in the wee hours each morning as the huge beasts wandered through camp eating the trees around their tents....more

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Guardian Hippo

My friend Esther recently returned from a trip to Tanzania, Africa, where she and a friend had the privilege of watching the Great Migration in the Serengeti. It was the trip of a lifetime as they saw an amazing array of people, scenery and animals –including elephants that woke them in the wee hours each morning as the huge beasts wandered through camp eating the trees around their tents....more