Romantic Marriage - an Oxymoron?

What happened to the romance in your marriage? Why is it when you look at your husband all you see is dirty socks to pick up and a yard that's not getting mowed?   It wasn't always this way. Once upon a time, not that long ago really, you used to be regular little lovebirds....more

Your Panties Are Not Safe: The Scoop on Underwear DNA Tests

My mother's grandmother once gave her a piece of unsolicited advice: if you want to cheat on your husband, don't worry, just dispose of your underwear. My grandmother had her own ideas –- which she dispensed to me herself, also unsolicited –- that one should make best friends with the staff because they're the ones who change your sheets and thus know all your "comings and goings." My mother and I thought of these ideas in the same way we think of antiques: cute, if totally outdated. Outdated, that is, until an e-mail stumbled into my inbox from a a scientist friend at USC, the subject of which read: "DNA tests underwear to prove infidelity." ...more

what a disgusting and disturbing thought. I wonder what else can our panties be tested for ...more

How to Get a Happier Marriage: Dear Carrie Bradshaw, Don't Blame Marriage

I loved your voice overs and your laptop screen. Neither of us could have been so entirely shallow, really, because I've never known a shoe that wasn't orthopedic, but I liked you, Carrie Bradshaw, still. I liked you, though you've done harm. You have! The number of women I know who don't believe it's love unless it's tumultuous -- that's down to you, CB. ...more
The impact of Sex and the City on our culture is absolutely insane. But I agree completely with ...more

Road Trip Hell

Why do road trips with your husband always end up in arguments? Why are you so aggravated by the simple act of driving somewhere with your husband?   You're fuming....more

A Vindication of Love

And then, my eyes opened and love became less about the object of love and more about the Love itself. It was not whom I loved, but that I loved that became important....more

Why Married Sex Is Hot Sex: Yes, You Read That Right

iVillage recently released a survey of 2,000 married women that asked: How often do you have sex? And please, girlfriend, don't pretend you're not dying to know. ...more
OK, i totally need to comment on the "batteries" tip above.  COMPLETELY AGREE!   We started ...more

Relationships and Money - What if She Earns More?

Coach Joy Leach discusses how couples deal with women earning more. If you've dealt with this in your relationship please share your story and comments.Joy Leach ...more

King-Sized Bed

NOTE TO READERS: Normally this blog is reserved for transcriptions of my life. However, in the slow, yet determined pursuit of my writing career, sometimes I'm inspired to write outside my box.The below piece, King-Sized Bed is a piece of adult fiction. (I'm not sure if that's a real genre, but the piece contains adults, adult topics, and adult words such as sex & blowjob)....more

Autonomous People Make The Best Lovers

  The moment narcissistic and emotionally clouded, Jerry Maguire uttered the words, “You complete me,” women and men swooned at the notion that love and self were fully realized when two fated-lovers decided they couldn’t live without each other.  Though before the human head weighed eight pounds, both fiction and real life idolized this concept. The act of abandoning ourselves to another feels so powerful that, for centuries, we have mistaken this experience as the most desirable form of love. However, this love is inevitably unsustainable,personal humanity needs growth and no growth can occur in the shadow of another.   ...more

Establish Your Dating Terms of Service

From my ex-husband to a summer fling -- anyone who's been involved with me is familiar with the discussion of what I affectionately call the Terms of Service. Online, we're used to agreeing to conditions before going forward and investing time on any platform. These conditions matter: they help us see whether we want to use a service, define what we are there to do, and establish boundaries for what we can and cannot do. Why not apply the same to our relationships? ...more
I have never tried this type of up front analysis, but I completely agree that we need to ...more