Does Valentine's Turn a Woman into a Despotic Venus in Furs?

He and I don't feel cherished because of the flowers he sends, the meals he makes or the little gifts that I get him. It's about the time we spend arranging those flowers in a vase, sharing those meals, and playing with those little gifts. Valentine's Day isn't about stuff and it shouldn't be. It should be about reminding ourselves that our relationships matter. ...more
It's called the playoffs, pick your sport and it lasts for weeks....more

Celebrating Our 30th Wedding Anniversary

Without a doubt money can’t buy love, and money certainly didn’t buy our 30 years of marriage. We’ve seen our share of good times and bad times. We’ve seen each other through health and sickness. We’ve seen money just-enough to sustain us and poverty enough to ensure devotion and humility. For our relationship to have lasted this long, we needed to quickly adapt a short memory and increase an endless supply of compassion and forgiveness. We also discovered that friendship is just as important as being lovers!...more
@Jane Collins Alright, Jane, I will send a note. Thank you for all your help! :)more

A problem with porn...

 Maybe the issue isn't all about him... ...more

Relationships, Weekends, and My Blended Family

Weekends are a bittersweet time for me.  On one hand they are a welcome respite to the weekday schedule.  I can tackle larger projects around the home, catch up on reading, and take time to assess scheduling and family management strategies that are in place during the week.  On the other hand, because we are a two household family and my daughters go to their dads on the weekends, I feel an underlying sadness due to missing my girls....more

Marriage Contracts: Should We Should Have Marital Term Limits?

Last year marked my ten-year wedding anniversary. I love the legal protections of marriage -- no one argues that my husband can't visit me in the hospital or shouldn't be able to pick something up for me or inherit my money. I love the psychological aspect of marriage, too -- but it's the LEGAL aspect of marriage that ups the ante societally from living together. The legal aspect is also the part that I think we should change: We should have marital term limits. ...more
Interesting idea. I"m very much Christian and opposed to the idea of divorce, but having BEEN ...more

leave me where I am, I am only sleeping

“Hey where did my boys go?” I called out. “We are up here,” Marc answered.  “Alex and I are going to rest a little.”...more

Cheese and Shrimp Soufflé Recipe for Two

Any occasion to cook is an opportunity to create something new, something wild and wonderful; to fashion a meal such as one you’ve never done before; to sample a delicacy of the likes you’ve never tasted. And that is what building a dish like this one offers—tastes and textures—flavors that tease your taste-buds and happily dance on your palette like a five-string orchestra....more
And I wish you, too, a super great weekend, Alexandra! @ropcornmore

11 Fun Love & Sex Stocking Stuffers

Oh, come on! Why do you look so serious? Gift giving should be fun! Run through this list with me and get back in the mood. Remember, 'tis the season! ...more
I love these, I need to find some of these and buy them, especially the "Make a Decision" ones.more

What Are Your Secrets (to a Happy Relationship)?

You know, I'm not the only one with opinions around here.My readers are smart, savvy, funny, and wise. I can tell from the comments they post and the e-mails they send me.So, for a change of pace, I thought that today it might be fun to let them do some of the work. And by them, I mean you. If you're reading this on BlogHer, you're invited to chime in, too!What are your secrets to a happy relationship?...more

The Scent of His Grey Flannel Cologne Is Intoxicating

Scents are memory enhancers, good or bad, they recall the moment of introduction, be it someone, place or thing. And the scent of his cologne, my man’s scent of many years—“Grey Flannel” by Geoffrey Beene—is buried deep into my subconscious. It is wildly intoxicating; it brings old euphoria to my restless spirit, and then it calms me anew. One longing embrace from him and his scent clings to me like honey. His scent—peppery-spicy and woodsy-clean—clears my stormy mind, and suddenly the world stops spinning, and I can focus—I can breathe again....more
I agree, because I hear of so many women that are no longer in-love with their mate of so many ...more