The imperfect part of love

If you are wishing to find out more about the person you love, and how compatible you’ll be with them for life, build something with them. Nothing tests patience, character and understanding as working together on a home project. ...more

that's the great part of love, learning to live and love the imperfections of each other.more

Emotional Cheating: when the cat's out of the bag.

I almost feel like I am in some lifetime movie.  It’s been a couple of weeks, my boyfriend and I have had a couple more “come to Jesus” talks about his emotional affair.  I can’t speak for every woman that is in this predicament but I can lay out what I am going through and maybe help someone along the way or maybe someone else has advice. When I last left off, I had told my guy that I would not ever tell him who he could be friends with or who he could talk to etc.  I could not however live with secrets, betrayal and lying (even by omission).  I explained to him...more

Serendipity: Discovering That Accidental Love

The best kind of love is the one we are not seeking but find; because fortuitous love, after all, finds you, and at an appointed time. Yet how many of us can attest to really believing in destiny? As for me, I believe. One only need believe—and hope, even a little—and love, by providence, will manifest itself.  Serendipity!...more

Being married over twenty-nine years means lots and lots of practice at getting it right. This ...more

When Food Tastes Better Than Sex

As a woman you know you’ve reached that age of transition in life—our middle earth—when you and your girlfriends can sit to shoot the breeze about the kids, the weather, and food and sex as if they belong under the same category. Then the question of questions arises, a choice is offered: to have food or sex? Both choices are delicious and equally soul satisfying. But if I had to choose…if I had to make a choice…well, in all honesty…hands-down, food satisfies longer!...more

Hi Melanie!

Okay, this is one I have not heard, and now I am worried. (lol!) I cannot afford ...more

Early Hiking to Calm My Restless Menopausal Spirit

At 6:25 a.m. the alarm goes off, and my hubby and I reluctantly get out of bed, still somewhat groggy, and tired from last night’s chest and abdominal workout. But neither wants to be the one to suggest skipping the morning’s hike/walk for sleeping in another glorious 45 minutes. So we get changed into proper walking gear, and in no-time-flat are out the door, stepping into very crisp air. Burrr!...more

Needing My Partner In My Relationship

I’m over it. I’m over him saying one thing and doing another. Or better yet, saying one thing and not doing anything at all. Just when I think we’ve made progress in our relationship and moving toward doing what is best for the relationship, something happens that pushes us further apart. And I can’t help but think he is the culprit–I can’t help but think he is pushing us apart. He is not intentionally being destructive to our relationship, but ignorantly....more

I hear you, Brooke. Been there. I spent the bulk of my first marriage doing everything I could ...more

Husband Resents Time With Kids

Why does your husband get cranky when you spend time with the kids? Why is he so demanding of your time when he knows you don’t have any!? A woman laments: “I don’t get it, Mom, he sees me dealing with the kids – diapering one, holding the other back from hitting the cat, and chasing the third down before he runs naked into the street - and all my husband does is get home from work, plop into the couch and complain “We never go out anymore”?!” “Men are like that,” her Mom says sympathetically....more

"Everytime he does something on your list, praise him enthusiastically,"

I find that to be ...more

The Love We Share

The fullness of my love is pushing, pulling, pounding, gushing, throbbing, pulsing, rumbling to break through the walls of my heart.  This love is so intense, so rich, so immense that it’s overwhelming....more