11 Fun Love & Sex Stocking Stuffers

Oh, come on! Why do you look so serious? Gift giving should be fun! Run through this list with me and get back in the mood. Remember, 'tis the season! ...more
I love these, I need to find some of these and buy them, especially the "Make a Decision" ones.more

What Are Your Secrets (to a Happy Relationship)?

You know, I'm not the only one with opinions around here.My readers are smart, savvy, funny, and wise. I can tell from the comments they post and the e-mails they send me.So, for a change of pace, I thought that today it might be fun to let them do some of the work. And by them, I mean you. If you're reading this on BlogHer, you're invited to chime in, too!What are your secrets to a happy relationship?...more

The Scent of His Grey Flannel Cologne Is Intoxicating

Scents are memory enhancers, good or bad, they recall the moment of introduction, be it someone, place or thing. And the scent of his cologne, my man’s scent of many years—“Grey Flannel” by Geoffrey Beene—is buried deep into my subconscious. It is wildly intoxicating; it brings old euphoria to my restless spirit, and then it calms me anew. One longing embrace from him and his scent clings to me like honey. His scent—peppery-spicy and woodsy-clean—clears my stormy mind, and suddenly the world stops spinning, and I can focus—I can breathe again....more
I agree, because I hear of so many women that are no longer in-love with their mate of so many ...more

The Grocery List. Why Sending My Husband to the Store is a Wasted Experience.

Last week, at three in the morning naturally, the battery in our fire alarm decided to alert us that it was dying.  It wasn’t just the occasional beep that you that you could ignore and fix in the morning, it was a constant unnerving, high pitched shrill that finally ceased once it was beaten to death with a shoe....more


LOVE SCENE INVESTIGATION“When we walked into a big gala fundraiser party at Chelsea Piers wearing matching tuxedos, he said, ‘Just remember – we’re not here as a couple.’”-Todd H....more

When Couples Retire Is “Inseparable” a Happy Thought?

What happens to couples when they finally retire and being “together” twenty-four-seven becomes a reality? Though plans were dreamed and schemed with excitement all those many years ago, suddenly they find that their once-gaiety of looking forward to their happy future in retirement is shattered and gone! It is therefore even more surprising to find that couples, though they’ve been “happily” married 20, 30, 40 years and more, no longer want to spend all those days and hours in each other’s company. What happened?...more
I love that you are not watching the game "in protest." How funny! That is exactly what I would ...more

Is "Falling Out of Love" the Deathblow to Your Marriage?

Just over a year ago, I was sitting in a meeting room in the Edmond Public Library. Across from me was a friend of a friend of a friend who had been referred to me for a class assignment. He had agreed to a one hour interview over the topic of his in-progress divorce proceedings and questions related to seeking help before he and his wife finalized the process....more

Why are some men threatened by a woman’s success and/or intellect?

Some men today fear and shun a relationship with a “successful” woman. Obviously, it takes a secure man to emotionally handle being with a woman that is more highly educated, more successful, or with a greater income. And it takes an even greater man to support her morally and unconditionally. For a woman that has achieved success and position, in this day and time, means that she has educated herself and used her abilities  to the fullest—to do all and be all. It doesn’t mean that she is a better person than he is or that he is a lesser man....more
@isthisthemiddle That is wonderful advice to give your students, Melanie. It is actually the ...more

A lone wolf is a heavy burden for a woman

The first thing a woman in a relationship with a lone wolf notices about him is that he doesn't have any men friends. That's the definition of a lone wolf. Even worse though, is if his friends are all women....more

What is an authentic man?

There's lots of talk going around about authentic men. I've read articles about what it means to be an authentic man, and some point in the right direction. I have my own sense of what it means to live authentically, and when I veer from what I consider my authentic path, I invariably suffer the consequences....more