What's the Deal With "Steak And Blow Job Day"?

When I first heard about "Steak and Blow Job Day," I cracked up laughing. My husband of seven months insisted that this "holiday," celebrated on March 14, was a day for men to be treated special. He said that I had to cook him a steak and give him a blow job to show him my appreciation. Since these were two things I did regularly, I shrugged him off; what made March 14th any different? He then asked, "Well don't you want extra special things on Valentine's Day? Don't I get you flowers all the time?" I had to admit that he had a point, so I humored him and looked online for more information because I wasn't convinced he wasn't pulling my chain. ...more
Sadie's Gathering  There really is no argument about S&BJ day. Regardless of the possibility ...more

My 5 Questions about Romance

I had separate conversations with two girlfriends about romance. Both live on different coasts. We are all about the same age, give or take. Each of us is single and has decided dating has become somewhat arduous, overrated and less and less interesting, at least for right now. That may sound morose to some, but it’s not meant to be....more

Should I Give My Boyfriend a Marriage Ultimatum?

Whenever I talk to my boyfriend about planning our future life together his answer is always the same: "You know that I love you and we already share money, an apartment, and (formerly) a car so what more do you need?" I need progress. Should I give him a marriage ultimatum? ...more
GothSaku Break up with him, you know the answer already and once you do book a trip to NY to ...more

You're always dating online, you just don't realize it

Social media has changed the relationship world as we know it. It’s like a double-edged sword. It can lead to introductions and may serve as a casual way to build a relationship – a good way to avoid those awkward moments at first. But, it also causes problems. ...more

Reflections on Being Married to a Chef or Dating a Chef on Valentine's Day

It's almost here.  The day we've all be waiting for.  The day we celebrate our love for each other oh wait the person we love is a chef and is working tomorrow night (and tonight and all the days around Valentine's Day).So what does Valentine's Day mean to many chef wives and significant others?A night alone.Yep.  That pretty much sums it up.  It stinks.  I know....more

Learning to Ask for Help, Post-Breakup

 When I broke up with Alex, we had been living together for five years, and I wound up keeping our apartment while he moved in with some friends. I had grown rather accustomed (as most do, in longer-term relationships) to having someone around; someone to help out when things got hairy.  I wasn't faced with this reality until six months after he left....more

She’s Just Not That Into You: The Book That Should Have Been Written

Disclaimer: This article is about heterosexual relationships because it is written from my own experience, but I’m sure there are similarly interesting things to say about same-sex relationships, and I hope we can talk about them too.Don’t want. Don’t act. Sit there and look pretty so that a man will make the first move. “You’ve got to get him to say hello.”Field advances; don’t make them. Be the gatekeeper, not the one walking through the door....more

The 5 Covert Sexists You Meet Online

Any online dating profile containing the word “feminist” is bound to elicit some unsettling reactions, some merely misinformed – “I’m not a feminist; I believe in equality” – and some outright adversarial – “I guess you don’t want a man with balls” (that’s an actual OKCupid message). You probably won’t give these people* a second glance. But some are less upfront about their sexism. They may even make it through a few dates before you come face-to-face with their covert but insidious beliefs.1. Mr. Nice Guy...more
So whose left?  I'm Mr.Crawl into your chequing book. You can't resist.more

Online Dating 101

There’s a conversation topic that keeps coming up lately no matter where I am or who I’m with.  I’ve had it with friends, I’ve had it with family, and I’ve had it A LOT with coworkers; especially the youngins who know WAY more about this topic than I do.So what is this topic I can’t seem to escape from, you ask?Online. Dating....more

The Hysteric's Guide to Valentine's Day

The Hysteric's Guide to Valentine's Day...more