It Turns Out Joel the Interior Designer Wasn’t An Interior Designer OR Named Joel

Let’s take a moment to discuss pathological liars. I have already ranted about my ex-boyfriend, Joey, making up an entire vacation so that he didn’t have to hang out with me. And now you’ll find out about Joel…And, by the way, I feel okay using that name — because it’s technically not his name and I don’t think you can get angry at someone for using your real fake name.Joel, a very fashionable, good looking guy whom I met in a bar,  introduced himself as an Interior Designer.  I was impressed with that (never having met an interior designer before). We spoke for a few minutes near the coat check, and exchanged numbers....more

Online Dating Horror Story #3: Thunder and Lightning

Years ago, I met a man from an online dating site at a fast-food restaurant for a Coke. It turned out to be me listening to an hour-and-a-half monologue. (That happens a lot and I’m too polite — or dumb — to just get up and leave....more

Are You Dating Empty Calories?

It’s that time of year again. Many of us are starting to watch those calories a little more closely, the gym clothes are getting more wear, and swimsuit shopping is hovering over us like a big ol’ storm cloud. A cookie is no longer just a cookie-- it is an evil tool of seduction aimed at keeping us from fitting into our favorite sundresses. But empty calories can show up in other areas of our lives that have nothing to do with baked goods....more
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Online Dating Horror Story #2: Way Too Hairy

One of my most memorable – and bizarre – online dating stories was also one of my first attempts to meet a nice man after my divorce....more

The Single's Person Criteria List

So you are single and have this wonderful and very detailed list of the qualities, attributes and looks you want in your future partner.  Well aren’t you organized…and still Single!  As matchmakers, we often hear a laundry list of the “I wants” and “I needs” of our single clients.  After we finish going over their lists we ask them to cross off 3-4 of the items that they could actually live without.  At this point they are staring at us like we are from Mars but they begrudgingly do as requested.  Examples of the items that usually go are the exact height requiremen...more

Dear Nice Guys Everywhere...I Was Wrong

Dear Nice Guys Everywhere, I Was Wrong...   ...more

WHAT PEOPLE DON’T TELL YOU ABOUT DATING THE WRONG TYPES.

When you’re dating down, you aren’t always aware that you are doing it. I came up with an inventory to help you identify some of the red flags on Stop dating down! If you are doing 4 or more of these things, chances are you are settling in your relationship. Once you realize this is a feature of your relationships, then you can see if this yields a pattern in your life....more

TOP 3 THINGS TO HELP GET OVER AN EX.

Dealing with a break-up, separation or divorce is often difficult. Here are a few things that can help you cope with the break-up, separation or divorce....more
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Understanding Your Crew's Dating Pool

Understanding Your Crew’s Dating Pool…orHow to Enjoy the LeftoversUnderstanding that a crew mate is entitled to blow off a little steam once in a while, I’ve put together a list of Dooz and Donz, for da discerning wise guy. See my points below, and hey, if you have a beef wit any of my Tips for Tricks, come see me. Face to face, we will have a sit down and talk about it....more

The girl who pretended

[TW: Allusions to sexual assault and mention of mental illness]Some boys had me pretending. They never had me, but I pretended.As they talked at me about politics, opinions, sex, whatever, my attention wandered. I pretended to listen and agree. Maybe it was their tone or their demeanour, but I never really thought my input was asked for. Maybe it was because of a culture where women’s voices are devalued that I rarely sought to raise my own....more