"It is an illusion that youth is happy, an illusion of those who have lost it."  ~W....more

So I take it being the other women is your thing?

Men always joke about the "Bro Code" (which we can't even write without feeling stupid), but what about a code of honor for women? If feels like recently all these women have been bedding down married (or committed) men - from Leanne Rimes, Tiger's whores, to Jessie Jame's mistress. Not to mention all the women who slept with real life, non-celeb men and don't get called out....more

Adventures in New Dating - The Picky Factor

  I could never date someone who smokes. Shyness is a deal breaker. Long toes freak me out. Most people know what they don't want in a partner...more

Must Nice Guys Always Finish Last?

So I’m going on a date with this guy…why? Honestly, I’m not quite sure. I’m not quite sure why I danced with him at the club. I’m not quite sure why I gave him my number. I’m not quite sure why I agreed to go on a date. So I’m not quite sure how I got to this point with this man whom I didn’t even want to dance with, let alone go on a date with—except for the fact that he asked. That has to count for something, right? He asked to dance with me. He asked for my number. He asked if I would join him for dinner....more

Love At First Sight

Love At First Sight Does the kind of love that we see in movies, and sometimes hear our friends boast about - how they met, fell in love the second they laid eyes on each other, and from that moment on were rarely apart - really exist? I want to believe in this kind of love. I really do.  After all, it's the ultimate romantic story. However, these days it rarely happens. ...more

It Doesn't Have To Be That Way

Procrastination is a combination of low energy and low focus.   Increase your focus by relating the d...more

Love Lessons From My Celebrity Love Affairs

I have many good reasons to question my taste in men. Fortunately, most of those reasons are in my imagination, as my real world taste is delicious, if not the cause of occasional indigestion (or emotional diarrhea, perhaps hives, periodic convulsions and flare-ups lasting more than 4 hours - but mostly tasty  and good for me.)...more

Great to hear that this introspective exercise may yeild some positive results. Too bad the ...more

Slow Down and Enjoy Some Small(er) Talk on Dates

When you’re dating, do you want to know as much as possible about a man, as quickly as possible? Especially for those of us “of a certain age;” life is too damn short to be dilly dallying around. Either the guy is for you, or he’s not. And with the right information, you (think you) can tell darn quickly. You can figure people out quite quickly, right?...more

The #1 Killer of Good Dates and Relationships

“What’s the biggest challenge women face when dating?” This is the question I get asked most often as a dating and relationship coach for women over 40.   And the interesting thing is that it’s mostly asked by men. I usually respond by asking them what they think is our biggest challenge. Almost every man responds with “self-confidence”...more

Working with my clients, ground zero is almost always learning to love and appreciate themselves ...more

Balance--in relationships, with work, and achieving dreams

This blog first appeared in my blog, A Lifetime to Love: Sharing Unconditional Love...more