You're Asking For My Advice?

As you may already know, I have a "Tell Raquel" section, it's where I encourage you to write in with your relationship troubles. I find other people's relationships compelling, maybe it was too much Carrie Bradshaw or too much of being horrified by my sister's relationship picks (first one of her friends to tell her I said this wins a special prize). Since my last Tell Raquel post about my friend Melissa ~ Is This Guy For Real? , things have been quiet....more

Am I Being Irrational or Reasonable?

Sometimes I act crazy, but I cannot stop myself from acting that way. I feel myself being irrational and acting unfairly, but I cannot control those feelings and actions. I get so frustrated with him over things that I would not care about if other people did the same thing.  I probably treat him unfairly, but I’m not sure if it’s unreasonable. If he is going to be my future husband, then shouldn’t I have higher expectations for him? Or since he is going to be my future husband, should I give him the benefit of the doubt more often? ...more

Loving Him for Him

I expect too much from him—he is only human....more

Waiting for Mr. Wrong?!

What a smack in the face that in this day and age, not only do we have to risk being heartbroken by those we considered Mr. Right, but to add insult to injury, we actually have to be sidelined and second tiered by those we don’t even really like and are only giving a chance because hey, ya never know. This insulting circumstance can make a girl want to stop the whole dating process altogether. I mean seriously, if it wasn’t for the free gifts and the retrospective amusement, I’d have stopped long ago.      ...more

That Special Kind of Attention

Attention is addictive. I crave it, yearn for it. I need it. But not just any attention, I need attention from a man. And not just any man, I need attention from my man. ...more

The Sun Is Shining

The sun is shining… You finally got it—you were finally able to see and understand what was needed to make our relationship bloom. You were finally able to see that time, energy and effort must go into the relationship in order for the relationship to bear fruits of love, joy and hope. But in order for you to give time to the relationship, you needed time. You needed time to understand that long-distance didn’t mean long times of no communication. The distance should be a product of our physical proximity, not our emotional immediacy....more

Girl Code: Dating a Friend's Ex

The Girl Code is that unspoken rule that keeps the peace by keeping us away from our girlfriends' men. While the rules about crossing the line with a friend's current boyfriend or husband seem clear, opinion varies when it comes to exes. Are ex-boyfriends fair game, or does the Code still apply? ...more
lainierenee i'm confused for I have a best friend that I would say best friend for life. And I ...more


So I find in watching all of these fashion shows on t.v., that I really, really like the free spirited gay men who are gorgeously attractive, stylish, and interesting (not the overly flamboyant types… but pretty anyhow).  It’s a weird, but legitimate attraction that makes me wonder…. If I like such a womanish type of dude…. Does that mean that I’m actually attracted o feminine qualities, and as a result… gay myself? Or am I attracted to what I see as a reflection of myself, and in that case just narcissistic?  ...more

The Ugly Truth...Marriage Scares The Heck Out Of Me

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