My Story as a Survivor of Depression It seems strange that I should write about this now, 13 years after it happened. I am not even sure where to begin, since the situation presented itself most unexpectedly. So, perhaps the best place to start is right in the middle of it....more
Mental health is a tricky thing. It’s difficult to understand exactly what someone is going through inside their own head and even harder to help them when they don’t really know what they need. A lot of times depression seems as though it is just a deeper sadness but it’s actually much more than that. The despair can be so consuming, any simple task can feel like an insurmountable problem. That’s what depression does to me....more
Yesterday was a great day. I drove Jack into the city to a children’s museum, and we played and climbed and…well, mostly I chased him. We devoured, in equal parts, a delicious sausage pizza. The wind bit our cheeks as we ran back to the parking garage. And I reveled in moving and playing and driving and inserting my little validated parking ticket in the slot—actions of which I am oddly proud. As I performed them, I was thinking, triumphantly: I’ll never let anxiety stop me from doing what I want to do....more
Hello, everyone! Remember when I published a blog post about Expressive Therapeutic Writing? Remember how I said to stay tuned for even more tips on how to get started with your own writing? Well, it's finally here! I am pleased to offer a completely free list of 16 tips for beginners (and the pros) for you to download! Just visit my blog and click on the post "Expressive Therapeutic Writing: 16 Tips For Beginners (Free Download)" to find the link....more
In appreciation of your patience and continued support, I want to offer my wonderful readers a little something. I have not been able to write as often as I would like, and I know this can be irksome. I have been dabbling with some design work in the hopes of creating some promotional materials for Depression Ever After, and I want to share with you what I have created so far....more
Longer, colder and more isolating; that's what winter in Minnesota means to this mama.The days feel longer (thank goodness we're past the Winter Solstice though) despite the fact that the actual time we see the sun is shorter....more
None of the baby books I read really addressed what happens after a baby is born. I mean, unless it was about what to expect from the baby. I found it to be an overlooked subject that could have helped me in confusion about first-time motherhood.I remember all the stories of how the pain goes fades away to exceeding joy at your new bundle of joy. Yes, I wanted to hold her, but I don't know that I felt exceeding joy. Terror and fear is more like it....more
My husband practically whispered it. "Honey, I don't know what to do to help you right now."
"I don't know either."
I think back on those horrible days I spent fighting to get out of my own dark well. Nothing else hurts that bad. I'm brought back to it every single time I hear someone else is fighting their own demons of depression.
As a psychologist, I'm often asked, "What can I do to help my spouse/child/friend who is depressed?"
While the answer of every person suffering through depression might be a tad different, in my experience, the answer always comes back to the need to feel loved, accepted, and not alone.
I've been meaning to read this fairy tale for years, and I'm so glad I finally did. It's beautiful, and it's such a perfect illustration of everything it takes to overcome mental illness that I really have to share. (Pause: yes, this is the Hans Christian Andersen story they took as their inspiration for Frozen, but the two bear only a passing resemblance....more
I'm at Starbucks typing this blog post at the insistence of my husband, who saw a dark cloud settling over me and knew I needed some time alone. For most of this year, I've had a decently positive attitude about my son's autism diagnosis....more