“…as soon as you have a secret, something about you that you are ashamed to have others find out, you have given other people the power to hurt you by exposing you.” – Ayelet Waldman I used to have the secret that my father was running from the law. He got arrested for cheating at gambling when I was 14 years old, and then he fled the country when he was supposed to go on trial....more
New research published in 2013 shows that people prefer certain music based on recent experiences. So if you just got in an argument with a rude person in the parking lot, you'll want to get in your car and listen to "angry" music. Ditto with a bad break-up and sad music. Music therapists explain that matching your music to your mood makes you feel understood, wich in turn provides a release that (eventually) allows you to move on with your life....more
If you are a kindred spirit then this post will make absolute sense to you. If you don’t know what I mean by “kindred spirit”, then I’ve already lost you.I’m talking about Lucy Maud Montgomery, the author of “Anne of Green Gables”, “Emily of New Moon”, “The Blue Castle” and more. I read all of her books over and over and over again when I was young....more
I cried far too much today.
I cried because I have a sweet little ten-year-old boy who needs me to be a lot stronger than I am.
I cried because I can't seem to give him what he needs, get him what he needs.
I cried because he told us he's sad all the time, he can't make his brain shut off, he feels weird and out of place in this world, and he wishes he could be more like his brothers.
I cried harder still when he saw me crying and reassured me that he was going to get better.
How we feel (depressed, anxious, sad) is affected by the chemicals in our brain. If you know what to eat, you can balance those chemicals to keep your mood more stable (and positive) in many cases.Here are some of the best foods to reach for to improve your mood:1. Lentils. Depressed people often have low folic acid. Lentils are high in folic acid.2. Brazil nuts. Depressed people sometimes have low levels of selenium. Raw Brazil nuts chave selenium.3. Avocado. Great source of folic acid and Vimain E....more
I am not even sure where to begin. How do I start this post out? Do I begin with a cliche' "Hi my name is ______, and I have postpartum depression?" I don't think I should, so let me try a different way.This is by no means easy for me. Infact, it is a daily struggle that many women face. A daily struggle to get up out of bed without crying,feeling sorry for myself, or anxious until I am turning blue. This is my story however, of my struggle with postpartum depression. And my final straw to get help....more
Before I had a baby I knew as much about "controlled crying" as I did about mining in the Amazon. To me, they both seemed unnecessary and did more damage than good. My impression of "controlled crying" was putting your child into its cot and letting your little darling cry for any given period of time until they either went to sleep or threw up, in which case you would change the sheets and start again. I had heard people say, "the first week is the worst but it gets easier once the child gets use to it"....more
Unless you live under a rock, you've likely heard about the large number of soldiers returning from war with traumatic brain injuries (TBIs). Whereas doctors used to believe that you had to be right next to an explosion (or in a Humvee accident, etc.) to get a head injury, we now know that soldiers can be quite a distance away and get TBIs from blast shockwaves....more
Humans have always been trying to keep up with the Joneses, and nowhere is it easier to see what the Joneses have that you don't than online. Number of followers on Twitter? Number of friends on Facebook? Invitation to Disney Moms? Book deal? Comments on a post? Likes on a status? And then all the things that we talk about online that aren't actually contained in cyberspace: the crafts we think up that we put on Pinterest and the gorgeous pictures of a new home and the vacations to exotic locales and the non-tangibles: seeing that someone else thinks they have the best husband in the world or the cutest kids. The most love, the most happiness, the most ease.