More research that bullying and childhood abuse changes the brain

A psychologist at the University of Ottawa was frustrted that the media, policy makers and the public seemed to only pay attention to research on bullying if she could show that it created biological damage (vs. "just" psychological/emotion I suppose).She did a study in 2008 that showed that while boys who were bullied had higher levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) compared to boys who weren't bullied, girls had much lower levels of cortisol compared to girls who weren't bullied....more

Fibromyalgia sufferers have hypersensitivity to non-painful events

Yes, it's another post about fibromyalgia. But apparently I hit a nerve (excuse the pun) in a GOOD way when I wrote about some of the latest fibromyalgia research.So here's more research:In a  new study, neuroscientists used fMRIs to look at the brain's response to visual, auditory and tactile stimulation in 35 women with fibromyalgia (and 25 women without it). Most had endured the disease for 7 years and the mean age of the participants was 47....more

No, I'm Not Pregnant. I'm Just Gaining Weight from the Pills

HEY. Listen. I am trying really hard down here. I am back on the pills. I am taking the damn pills. ...more
I feel you.  I have had some stern conversations with doctors about the side effects of ...more

A PSA: Vulnerability is our greatest strength.

 Social media is a miracle. I meet new friends and stay connected with old ones. I can keep my finger on the pulse of inspiration in our world. There are pictures of puppies and foals and yes, those people who knit for their chickens....more

The Semicolon Project; The Sentence Is Your Life

A few months ago, a dear friend of mine posted on Facebook with a link to something called “The Semicolon Project.” I’d never heard of it before and was curious what it was all about. Have you heard of it?It turns out, the Semicolon Project is a nonprofit organization that provides support to people and communities suffering with any kind of mental health issues. Specifically, those who may be contemplating suicide....more

Love People As Much As You Can

Yesterday a friend of mine told me that one of her friend’s wrote a suicidal status on Facebook. It stated her “last words” and had information on how she wanted to be buried. I was mortified when I read it and couldn’t even begin to imagine the amount of pain that led her to that point....more

A voice for #suicideprevention

I learned from my very aware friends at Write Tribe that today is World Suicide Prevention Day. With the tragic death of Robin Williams still achingly fresh in our minds, the observation of such a day seems rather timely, doesn't it? ...more

You Can Be Very Successful and Still Be Depressed

The day after news broke that actor Robin Williams died by suicide, a local TV news station interviewed me about my personal experience living with depression. (I like to say “living with depression” because you can still manage it and have a quality life.) Most of the responses to my interview have been positive and encouraging. I received an email from someone I knew from high school. She sang my praises of professional and personal success, especially since I was a black woman raised in East Oakland. She suggested that when I’m depressed to remember the women around the world less fortunate than I am who would give their right arm to have my life because of my achievements. ...more
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Forecast: Mixed With a Serious Chance of Storms

Not the weather, me. Not the weather. ME. I hate admitting to struggling. I hate feeling the storm brewing in me, the internal tornado...the sense that I'm about to fly off, scatter into pieces, shatter beyond repair. Even more, I hate that to a degree I can contain that tornado so that most people are unaware that anything is amiss. ...more

Why it Takes Falling Apart to Keep it Together

It starts with something small and not directly in your control.  Small, but still relevant.  You get a flat tire, your toilet overflows, an unexpected bill slides into your mailbox and so on and so on.  Usually, you would just chalk this up to a bump in the road of your otherwise pretty great life.  But with the delivery of this particularly unpleasant present also comes a slight shift in the air.  It's subtle but palpable and that inner voice that we all try to hush whispers, "A storm is coming."...more