Entangled

I was thinking about this divorce driving to work.I’m entangled.Only way to describe it.Entangled.Finances House Vehicles Insurance Kids on and on and onA large knot of entanglement.  All balled up.  In a mess.  A complete and utter mess....more

Four days together maybe the start of forever?

We had four wonderful days alone together.  My ex husband and I met at a beautiful lake in Arkansas and just were there.  We left our families, our jobs, our separate homes, our old hard feelings at home and just had an amazing weekend.  There were revelations both observed and spoken.  I saw the changes in his capabilities.  He is easily winded much quicker than before with less exertion.  However, I saw how ingenious he is about finding a way to make it work.  He used pulleys to move things he no longer could on his own.  He asked me to get things f...more

My Book Comes Alive: Movie Preview Released Today

I found myself today at yet another surreal moment in my book/movie journey:  Lifetime released the preview for my movie.  The actual movie premiere is taking place this coming Saturday, May 31st. Some friends who have already seen this preview have asked me, "What do you think?  How do you feel?  What's this like for you?"I really can't answer right now.  I'm still digesting... I invite you to imagine the many emotions I had as I watched this.     ...more
Delaine Moore That is interesting and I agree with you that it doesn't make sense to show all of ...more

Androgel, Online Pharmacies, and Divorce

No matter how many warnings he was given, my ex-husband insisted on taking Androgel.  In doing so, he ended up finding himself faced with his biggest fear: being alone. There are a good number of years in age between he and I, and we each saw advantages to that for vastly different reasons.  While his reason was the assumption that he could recapture his (sexual) youth, mine was the assumption that he wanted someone who would not demand a "young man level" performance of sexual acitivity.  We were both wrong. ...more

If It Hurts Too Much to Stay... Leave

If you find yourself lying to everyone that everything is fine, and having to put on a smile, you need to leave.If you find yourself trying to breathe so quietly that the covers don’t move because it will enrage him, you need to leave.If you find yourself nodding in agreement when he says that the hole in the wall is where he slipped, knowing full well that he hit it during a rage, you need to leave.If you find yourself cut off from everyone who really knows you because you cannot look them  in the eye anymore, you need to leave....more
Thanks for sharing.  This is all so true.  It was reading information like yours on various web ...more

90 Days

It’s coming up on 90 days………………….since I filed for divorce.90 days.  3 months.  Winter to almost Summer.Takes 90 days, in this state, to be divorced.  90 days to be SURE you WANT to be divorced.  To think it over, I suppose.Yes, I DO want to be divorced, but it ain’t gonna happen in 90 days.  No way.  No how.  Not in this universe.  Nope.And?  I made a CALENDAR counting DOWN the 90 days.  Sad?  Because, well, it isn’t going to BE 90 days....more

The Truth

Interesting word.  Means about 15 million things....when you really think about it.  It's tricky.Truth as in the god's honest TRUTH. Truth as in full straight on HONESTY. Truth as in your personal driving force.  Your BELIEFS.Truth.Truth can be twisted...you change it to make your 'version' of your truth.  To make it all ok.  To make it all seem like it was a good idea.  To make you feel better....more
Nice to finally meet another lady who doesn't miss being married. I have to wait a year for my ...more

Outside the Kitchen: Conscious UnCoupling

I felt compelled to write my first post about my profession as a family law attorney yesterday morning as I watched Good Morning America.   There I was watching my favorite morning show discussing the very essence of what I do on a daily basis.  Most importantly, Robin, Josh, Lara, and Amy were talking about the very essence of what I believe in my core;  the possibility of amicable dissolution of a marriage for the best interests of the children....more

I Could've Used a 'Divorce Rule Book' Years Ago

I made these little guidelines for myself when embarking on the beginning of my separation/divorce  journey three years ago, determined to have a civil divorce, even when there was domestic violence involved, but it was hard.  So it's nice to pause and look back, re-read, and know they still apply today as much as they did three years ago. ...more
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5 Must-Read Blogs For Life After Divorce

Today is Ex-Spouse Day, and we’re highlighting a few of our favorite blogs that help readers go through the process of divorcing, provide helpful tips for navigating life after divorce, and maintaining the healthiest post-divorce relationships (essential when children are involved). Check them out and tell us if you have other blogs to share!...more
Awesome, thanks for the resources and your post!  I am also writing about life post divorce, ...more