My Challenge to Huffington Post: Make Marriage More Important

On the eve of my 3 year wedding anniversary, I wrote an article on my blog detailing my thoughts on marriage thus far. It occurred to me that others might find it useful and that it would be a good fit for the “marriage” section of Huffington Post. Only there isn’t a section for marriage on Huff Post....more

My Challenge to Huffington Post: Make Marriage More Important

On the eve of my 3 year wedding anniversary, I wrote an article on my blog detailing my thoughts on marriage thus far. It occurred to me that others might find it useful and that it would be a good fit for the “marriage” section of Huffington Post. Only there isn’t a section for marriage on Huff Post....more

I cried on my wedding day. And not why you think.

In the middle of a divorce.  Nasty.  Ugly.  Foul.  Divorce.I've been reflecting I guess.  Trying to figure it out.  Trying to review these 16 years of marriage.   Carving out a new life.And I remembered:  I cried on my wedding day.I bawled.  Seriously.  BAWLED.  I don't think he even knows why.  Hell, I'm not even sure he remembers, now that I think about it.I cried.  Hard.  Not because I was happy.  Not because I was sad.  Not because I was nervous....more

Ben's New Beginning

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Husband number one.

Oct. 13, 2014 ...more

When does it end?

I filed for divorced in February.  Long Story.Separated in March.  Longer Story.Worked out custody in mediation.  Stalemate on financials and such.  Longer Story Still.So?  Now?Court date is in March.  2015.MARCHHHHHHHHHHHHHH 2015.Two adults can’t sit down and AGREE on things that should be easy to work out.There’s no ‘easy’.There’s no ‘fair’.There’s no ‘negotiating’.There’s no ‘equal’.It’s a damn divorce.  And a nasty one at that. You might think “Hey, he would want this DONE ASAP?”...more
HollyPettit HOLY SMACK!  3 years makes my guts hurt!  I sure hope you are in a great place now! ...more

Goals

I was asked "What are your goals?"To get divorced."No, a GOAL."Um, that 'is' a goal?Apparently, it isn't.  And apparently, since it's all I think about, I have NO goals.How about THAT?Yep, I didn't see it either.The only immediate goal I have is to get to trial in March.  That's the one thing I have as a wish.  A focus.  A need.  A want.But alas, not a goal.  So I'm informed.So?  I stared blankly.  I got NOTHING.  ...more

Helping New Single Moms

Did you know that almost half of babies born every year are born to single moms? These babies are often born to moms who are overwhelmed from the beginning and not getting much sleep. They don’t know what to do, and they feel alone and isolated. As time passes, these women keep doing the same things over and over, barely able to keep their heads above water. They live in survival mode....more

Separating from your spouse? Say hello to Mr. Panic Attack

Other kids had imaginary friends growing up, I had panic attacks. I think I had my first panic attack when I was four. I remember a big one when I was seven, visiting Opryland. I began hyperventilating during a stage show medley of country classics and had to be taken to their medical center. (But really, was it a panic attack or a way to get the hell out of Opryland?...more

Adult Child Of Divorce Pt. 2

My very fist post on here was about my parents declaration of their divorce and my feelings towards it. well, thats pretty much all I did. I went ahead to describe the emotions that lingered everyday for so many years, I described the sudden realization that perfection did not exist anymore... I wrote about an unfortunate event. However I didnt even mention how I over came it....more