90 Days

It’s coming up on 90 days………………….since I filed for divorce.90 days.  3 months.  Winter to almost Summer.Takes 90 days, in this state, to be divorced.  90 days to be SURE you WANT to be divorced.  To think it over, I suppose.Yes, I DO want to be divorced, but it ain’t gonna happen in 90 days.  No way.  No how.  Not in this universe.  Nope.And?  I made a CALENDAR counting DOWN the 90 days.  Sad?  Because, well, it isn’t going to BE 90 days....more

The Truth

Interesting word.  Means about 15 million things....when you really think about it.  It's tricky.Truth as in the god's honest TRUTH. Truth as in full straight on HONESTY. Truth as in your personal driving force.  Your BELIEFS.Truth.Truth can be twisted...you change it to make your 'version' of your truth.  To make it all ok.  To make it all seem like it was a good idea.  To make you feel better....more
Nice to finally meet another lady who doesn't miss being married. I have to wait a year for my ...more

Outside the Kitchen: Conscious UnCoupling

I felt compelled to write my first post about my profession as a family law attorney yesterday morning as I watched Good Morning America.   There I was watching my favorite morning show discussing the very essence of what I do on a daily basis.  Most importantly, Robin, Josh, Lara, and Amy were talking about the very essence of what I believe in my core;  the possibility of amicable dissolution of a marriage for the best interests of the children....more

I Could've Used a 'Divorce Rule Book' Years Ago

I made these little guidelines for myself when embarking on the beginning of my separation/divorce  journey three years ago, determined to have a civil divorce, even when there was domestic violence involved, but it was hard.  So it's nice to pause and look back, re-read, and know they still apply today as much as they did three years ago. ...more
There is none. Everyone is different.more

5 Must-Read Blogs For Life After Divorce

Today is Ex-Spouse Day, and we’re highlighting a few of our favorite blogs that help readers go through the process of divorcing, provide helpful tips for navigating life after divorce, and maintaining the healthiest post-divorce relationships (essential when children are involved). Check them out and tell us if you have other blogs to share!...more
Awesome, thanks for the resources and your post!  I am also writing about life post divorce, ...more

Apathy

I don’t care.  I’m trying not to care.   I can’t care anymore.I’m trying not to think about it.  How he WAS.  Because?  That isn’t him.   The WAS is what I thought.  But the WAS doesn’t exist.How he  IS.   Really IS.  Not what I thought he WAS.  But IS.  That’s what I have to think about it.  I have to embrace the IS…the WAS isn’t real.And?  Accept it....more

A New Day During Divorce

Well, I don’t wake up, see new things and have “shock and awe”.I have “well, that’s just GREAT”.And sometimes?  I chuckle.  And sometimes?  I still cry....more
Shell_4_Tops boys always first. Always. But Michelle needs some peace too friend. Peace.more

6 Tricks to Get Bloggers TV-Ready

I've no doubt that many of you reading this get nervous, as do I, before going on TV or radio.  So I want to share a few things I learned to help me get a grip on my nerves before I went on this show. I really do think they helped. ...more

I can do it....I CAN

Yep, I can.  I can do stuff.I can:...more

The Trouble with Gwyneth

Gwyneth Paltrow announced on her website Goop last Tuesday that she and her husband of ten years, Chris Martin, of the band Coldplay, were splitting up. Her post,"Conscious Uncoupling," got so many hits that it crashed her website. There was the usual public response of sympathy and derision, in equal measure....more