Separating from your spouse? Say hello to Mr. Panic Attack

Other kids had imaginary friends growing up, I had panic attacks. I think I had my first panic attack when I was four. I remember a big one when I was seven, visiting Opryland. I began hyperventilating during a stage show medley of country classics and had to be taken to their medical center. (But really, was it a panic attack or a way to get the hell out of Opryland?...more

Adult Child Of Divorce Pt. 2

My very fist post on here was about my parents declaration of their divorce and my feelings towards it. well, thats pretty much all I did. I went ahead to describe the emotions that lingered everyday for so many years, I described the sudden realization that perfection did not exist anymore... I wrote about an unfortunate event. However I didnt even mention how I over came it....more

The Battle for Halloween: Family Holidays After Divorce

He gets the 4th of July, I get Halloween. He gets to light things on fire and cross his fingers that the dogs don't chew a hole through the wall, and I get to make a Dr. Horrible costume and explore haunted houses on North Portsmouth Street with the thousands of people who all of a sudden seem to live in our neighborhood. He gets to spend too much money on garbage that makes noise, and I get to spend $10 on candy that will somehow stay in my house until all of eternity goes by and a new world begins and then my $10 candy is an ancient, preserved, sticky relic (that the kids will still want to eat). But this year he asked if he could have them for Halloween....more
Love that making fantastic memories for your children is included in your decision-making! We do ...more

Rock Walls

Sitting in traffic…shocker.  Thinking:  Have you ever looked at the rock walls as you drive down the interstate?Me either.Until today.You can see the grooves of the dynamite tubes they drilledYou can see it weathered and softenedYou can see pieces cracking and falling off...more

Should I Tell My Friend She Should Get a Divorce?

Dear Mouthy Housewives,My friend is married to real jerk. He's just not kind or loving. I have never really liked him but tried to be supportive. I thought she rushed into it too fast, but she felt the pressure of the biological clock. (They now have kids.) She told me she is thinking of leaving him but wants my opinion on what she should do. Do you I tell the truth? I think she should dump him....more
I agree. I am currently in the shoes of the 'possibly getting a divorce' friend. I don't want ...more

When the children are watching

Ever think about the things your child may say or do, or even the personality they develop over time. How much of that do you attribute to genes? How much of that do you attribute to learned behavior or learned response? When people say, “you got it honest,” in reference to someone’s attitude or temper etc., I consider they are attributing the characteristics you are displaying, to your surrounding or experience in seeing that as a way to respond. ...more

Adult Child Of Divorce

What the hell,I'll start from the beginning.I was twelve when my parents decided to tell us they were getting a Divorce. ...more

Upon a Closing Door

During the fall of 2008, I was stuck with a pathetically low paying teaching job at a South Jersey community college where I taught students who couldn't spell their own names. I was also stuck in an even more pathetic marriage that I knew I shouldn't have agreed to be a part of. ...more


I’ve been quiet lately, on my blog.  I couldn’t write what I REALLY want to write.  It might just cause spontaneous combustion of people’s eyes.  My “Lifetime Movie” life.But then…there was a moment.  Monday of this week.A solidary, single moment.  A second, really.Of clarity.It all melted away.  The angst.  The worry.  The anger.  The anything.I got it.I GET it....more

Temporary Dislocated in Chicago

On March 31, 2010, I decided to follow my unorthodox mind instead of my spirit within, my intuition, to relocate for love. My ex and I decided to become engaged after four months of knowing one another and got married within six months. As I look back at this, neither one of us was thinking about this major decision. At first, I was excited to relocate to Chicago to finally be united with the “temporary love of my life” but slowly but surely the thrill was gone before the inked dried on the marriage certification....more