Love & Marriage

After I left the house, I just kept driving. Thinking. Wondering what I was doing that was causing my life to fall apart, over, and over…....more


I am so dumb. I speak before spoken to, without knowing or understanding implications or meaning. I sing without music or voice. I jump into quicksand blind to the black. I spurn the helping hand in fear, and stay deaf when branches rustle and reach. Only bare Faith…and the Wave… and my Anchor, thrust me back to the edge, so I can claw my way out.I’m sitting across from Pete, not listening. I’m back from Portland. Guilty feeling.He holds a secret while he talks, I can feel it. So I let him go on, as he’s sure to spill. He always does.And then…...more

Oregon Trail

We all come from someplace. Most of us know where we were born, have heard family stories passed down from our grandparents, our elders. I didn’t grow up with much of that, so indeed, it gives me great pride to tell my children their histories, to regale them with anecdotes of their childhood.  For Callum, it was The Great Climb – up the overplowed snowbank to the peak of a Mount Hood Chalet.  I still remember it like yesterday – looking up to find him sprawled across the glass atrium – strangers pointing and gasping at my 8 year old....more

Marriage, Divorce and 'Parenthood:' Come ON, Joel and Julia

**Spoiler Alert: You might not want to read this if you aren’t current with Parenthood episodes**...more
Why is there no discussion at all about the fact that Joel was kissed by that slutty mom Raquel ...more

The Divorce Diet

Looking for a sure-fire way to drop 5 to 10 pounds fast?Forget what you read in all the magazines or the ads you see on TV.My advice is to get a divorce.You're never hungry, could care less about food and find yourself fitting into pants that haven't felt right since you gave birth to your second child.When I was in the thick of ending my 18-year marriage, I looked great because I lost about 10 pounds in a week and saw a number on my scale I hadn't seen since 1994....more

On Beyond Anxiety and Pain

May I be real (with you)? I want to share a part of this difficult, painful journey, without embarrassing anyone or causing anyone distress. Facing the reality that our marriage was "irretrievably broken" was hard. ...more
anxiety and pain can be both cathartic and detrimental but finding the balance is anxiety ...more

Sexual Responsibility and The Post-Breakup "Surprise" Kid

WARNING- This sh*t is about to get real and preachy. If you think sexual irresponsibility is cool, don’t read this.I’ve encountered this too often for it not to be a trend. It’s a horrifying fad to me and I’d like to call it out. I’ve dated several men who, post-divorce or post-long term relationship breakup, end up knocking up a short-timer and now have a kid. (I’m sure you’ve heard of Dwyane Wade and his relationship hiatus baby by now). ...more
Melia_SThanks for your comments :-) The "conversation" with the child was absolutely NOT ...more


I dove into the basement clutter today.  OK, not intentionally.  I was putting Christmas Decorations away and needed some space so I saw two of my 200 still unpacked boxes there and needed to move them so I figured that I would "unpack them" {yep, procrastinate actually putting the decorations away}. ...more

What Do You Know About Marriage That You Didn't Know Before?

I had 12 writing prompts in a bag and this is what I pulled today: Image: VikeraAs I wrote this prompt, I had hoped that I wouldn't have to write on it early on, but life had other plans for me. Well, after all, this year's theme for me is "Challenge Yourself". ( do I write on this and expose my mistakes and failures?) I press on....more
Thanks.  Queendivakat -- sorry to hear about your divorce - it is a very painful time ...more