Sexual Responsibility and The Post-Breakup "Surprise" Kid

WARNING- This sh*t is about to get real and preachy. If you think sexual irresponsibility is cool, don’t read this.I’ve encountered this too often for it not to be a trend. It’s a horrifying fad to me and I’d like to call it out. I’ve dated several men who, post-divorce or post-long term relationship breakup, end up knocking up a short-timer and now have a kid. (I’m sure you’ve heard of Dwyane Wade and his relationship hiatus baby by now). ...more
Melia_SThanks for your comments :-) The "conversation" with the child was absolutely NOT ...more


I dove into the basement clutter today.  OK, not intentionally.  I was putting Christmas Decorations away and needed some space so I saw two of my 200 still unpacked boxes there and needed to move them so I figured that I would "unpack them" {yep, procrastinate actually putting the decorations away}. ...more

What Do You Know About Marriage That You Didn't Know Before?

I had 12 writing prompts in a bag and this is what I pulled today: Image: VikeraAs I wrote this prompt, I had hoped that I wouldn't have to write on it early on, but life had other plans for me. Well, after all, this year's theme for me is "Challenge Yourself". ( do I write on this and expose my mistakes and failures?) I press on....more
Thanks.  Queendivakat -- sorry to hear about your divorce - it is a very painful time ...more

Pressure.....they say it makes diamonds and I am willing to try

2014 here I am....I just joined the charge of NaBloPoMo and have made a commitment to blog every day during the month of January.  O. M. G. do I even have anything to say?!  Actually, I think I do.  Love the saying in the above picture....Pressure Makes Diamonds.   If it does then I should be at least a sparkling 10 carat Princess cut gem....more
Wow!  That is a lot of pressure!  I say, you are the 'diamond', the things to do the 'rough'.  A ...more

Should We Really Avoid Pain At All Costs?

Here in America, the trend seems to be avoiding pain at all costs....more
Not sure about being a hero ... LOL... I just wanted to be there. The second one... The whole ...more

Missing Pieces of a Jigsaw Puzzle

I’ve been thinking about extended family a lot lately, not only because of the holidays, but also because of the shifting nature of my own family.  I guess you could say I’m feeling a little guilty.  You see, in a recent post, I referred to “all” of my nephews and nieces by name.  Since then, however, I realized that there are others whom I did not name.  They are the “exes.”...more

In Their Own Words: Victims of Verbal Abuse Speak

The following are the words of women who have responded to my posts about verbal abuse. You can read the posts here and here. Some of these responses were comments in my blog posts and some of them were sent via emails. The desperation, helplessness, and self-blame are quite evident in these women’s responses. ...more
I recently left my verbally abusive marriage.  I stayed for 7 years.  The day my 5 year old ...more


My ears stinging and my fingers growing thick from the cold, I tugged and twisted and yanked and shimmied, but the chair was stuck as stuck could be in my minivan.  It had gone in there easily enough, sliding right past the back of my seat and over Juliet’s car seat until it rested in a cockeyed, yet stable fashion in the aisle of the vehicle....more

How Do You Tell Your Kids When You And Your Spouse Are Splitting?

IT LOOKS LIKE MY HUSBAND AND I ARE GOING TO GET DIVORCED. HOW SHOULD I EXPLAIN IT TO MY SON?photocreditMOLLY: This was submitted from a reader in Denver, Colorado. She added that she wants to make sure her son is mentally prepared should they get a divorce....more