Apathy

I don’t care.  I’m trying not to care.   I can’t care anymore.I’m trying not to think about it.  How he WAS.  Because?  That isn’t him.   The WAS is what I thought.  But the WAS doesn’t exist.How he  IS.   Really IS.  Not what I thought he WAS.  But IS.  That’s what I have to think about it.  I have to embrace the IS…the WAS isn’t real.And?  Accept it....more

A New Day During Divorce

Well, I don’t wake up, see new things and have “shock and awe”.I have “well, that’s just GREAT”.And sometimes?  I chuckle.  And sometimes?  I still cry....more
Shell_4_Tops boys always first. Always. But Michelle needs some peace too friend. Peace.more

6 Tricks to Get Bloggers TV-Ready

I've no doubt that many of you reading this get nervous, as do I, before going on TV or radio.  So I want to share a few things I learned to help me get a grip on my nerves before I went on this show. I really do think they helped. ...more

I can do it....I CAN

Yep, I can.  I can do stuff.I can:...more

The Trouble with Gwyneth

Gwyneth Paltrow announced on her website Goop last Tuesday that she and her husband of ten years, Chris Martin, of the band Coldplay, were splitting up. Her post,"Conscious Uncoupling," got so many hits that it crashed her website. There was the usual public response of sympathy and derision, in equal measure....more

Why I Cry in My Car Every Wednesday at 6:45am

I wake up on Wednesdays with a pit in my stomach. I hear the alarm go off and I immediately become tearful. I hate Wednesdays. Wednesday is the day that my kids go to their dad’s house until either Friday (which I can barely tolerate) or until Monday (which feels beyond awful). After divorce, there is no perfect custody schedule, and this one was the product of careful deliberation and collaboration. I know that it’s in the best interests of my kids. My attempts at rationalization, however, do nothing to temper the devastating heartbreak that I experience every Wednesday morning. ...more
I have my heart ripped out every Wednesday too. However, the kids only go for a 2 1/2 hour ...more

Bag Lady Fears

Bag lady - a term used to describe a homeless woman who walks around the streets of a city carrying her possessions in a bag. This is still a real and persistent fear of even the most successful women like Katie Couric, Gloria Steinem and Lily Tomlin....more

I did not see that coming.

I'm kind of going back and forth on the whole GOOP "conscious uncoupling" thing. I mean, obviously, it is terrible in like a thousand ways, and yet, it's always pretty bad when people get divorced. Isn't it? I don't know. I've never been divorced. I have friends and family who have divorced, and even when their marriages were terrible the divorce was still hard. The aftermath was still un-fun. So. How to feel about a sanctimonious pill who is getting divorced but can't even use the word, because it's so what? Pedestrian? I don't know. I don't know. ...more

I Followed Princeton Mom's "Marry Smart" Advice and It Was The Dumbest Thing I Ever Did

“Princeton Mom” Susan Patton’s new book Marry Smart offers dumb advice for women. ...more
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Pauline. I am frankly not a fan of her advice or ...more

Packing to Find Your Freedom in Divorce? Read This First

Jeana, I am so very sorry that you experienced this.  I feel like barfing.  I can't believe all ...more