Boys vs. Girls: Arguing Gender Equality in the Goodwill Line

We chatted about the differences between boys and girls, the way a girl at five seems so oddly capable of just doing a task (even a complicated one, like putting socks on without first throwing them across the room a few times, or sitting in a chair without tipping it backwards or otherwise flailing around). The lady behind the counter agreed, having mothered five boys. Then this blonde woman behind us, who we didn’t exactly invite into our little discussion I might add, gets all condescending and pipes up: “You know, I don’t think it’s a boy/girl thing. It’s just a person thing. It’s just an individual personality difference -- it has nothing to do with being male or female. I raised a boy who is so sensitive and gentle. It’s just a human difference.” She’s impressed with herself....more
I have a "mixed pack" as I like to call them (Girl, then Boy) and they seem to fall along ...more

Do schools take the thinking out of learning?

Imagine getting in your car to go on a trip to a new place and never making a plan such as looking at a map, writing down directions, or using GPS to plot the road trip for you. In very simple terms, that is what some schools encourage kids to do when they remove the activities that involve planning and organizing ideas and instead rely on highly regulated activities such as memorizing facts for a test. ...more

Life Lesson 101: Island Night

Last night I attended a friend’s birthday party whom I adore.  We started out at her family’s house (a combination of Samoans and Japanese) so the food spread was nothing short of amazing.  I tried lamb for the first time and it literally melted in my mouth.  From there we all caravanned downtown to a local bar where they were hosting “Island Night”.  This is where I discovered that in Boise freakin Idaho it is the one and only place AND time you can be a minority; because I was one of only three white people in the entire bar- and I loved it! ...more

Today's Show- International Adoption with the "Orphan Doctor", Dr. Jane Aronson

  Listen NOW to a great show with Dr. Jane Aronson....more

Finding home

“Homing… is the instinct to return, to go to the place we remember. It is the ability to find, whether in dark or in daylight, one’s home place… Home is an internal place, a place somewhere in time rather than space, where a woman feels of one piece.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estés ...more

Being A Motherless Mother

My mother was a complicated person in life and in death. She died when I was nineteen, after a long battle with breast cancer. Actually, calling her struggle a “battle” isn’t entirely accurate because she never once saw a doctor.  A Southern-raised African American who became a hippie in the 1960s and 70s, she didn’t believe in Western medicine. So, when breast cancer ravaged her body, over the span of a decade, she relied on ineffective herbs and natural healing practices to fight the metastatic cancer....more
Wow what a great story ! I'm 19 and my mom died when I was 6. My dad was not around so all my ...more

It's the little things

Have a wonderful holiday weekend. And remember to enjoy the little things! Mixed media art by me, Chris Olson.  ...more
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September 11, 2001—a Solemn Moment in My Heart; a Time to Reflect

A day of tragedy and great loss; a day that will forever burn in my memory. 9/11, only three days after my 45th birthday, I was up early, sitting in my living room with the television on, a cup of coffee in hand, still waking to the day. I was watching the morning news, when suddenly the images began to appear as they were happening. Unbelievable…shocking…disturbing…surreal…. My heart instantly dropped to my stomach, and I began to cry....more
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What I Learned from Irene & Billy-Joe-Bob

Well.  We made it through Hurricane Irene.  Our city looks like a war zone.  The damage is horrendous.  Had no idea.  The university here has shut down. {Universities usually don't shut down--unless the chancellor can't walk across the street from his house to his office.}...more

Preparing for the Hurricane

My blog: http://abookformydaughter.wordpress.comComing out on the other side of the hurricane with our electricity still working, our floors dry, and our store intact, I can now look back at the last few days and laugh at my approach to hurricane preparedness—a much needed release of the tension that had been building in me for days.Thursday (Two Days Until Storm):...more