New Moon Musings..It's Not That Complicated

 I love both Hillary and Bernie. I've contributed to both. I'll vote for whoever wins the nomination. What I don't like is the vitriol between progressives. Now there's a problem between older and younger feminists....more

Feminism Unplugged

I recently had the opportunity to speak with the Editor of Hurt2Healing Magazine, Ebony S. Muhammad, on a subject that I hold near to my heart. A movement that has always rested on its feet, in my day to day living, while it remains a prevalent topic of discussion. Full interview here: Feminism and the feminist movement. Feminism the movement...more

Polishing the Pearl: Let's Talk About Female Masturbation

"When I'm good, I'm very good, and when I'm bad, I'm better." -Mae WestJerking off. Whacking off. Whippin the bishop. Spanking the monkey, walking the dog, shucking the corn. Beating it, badgering the witness, jerkin the gherkin, bashing the candle, beating the meat, choking the chicken. And those are just the ones I could think of offhand—the lists I found on the internet are endless (and often disturbing, in case you’re wondering).One site boasted a list of 1,000 different ways to refer to a man playing 5-on-1....more
curtain twitching??? haha.more

Going Make-up Commando Is Not Brave

I just saw a story on the internet praising some model who "braved" snapping a make-up free selfie and tweeting it for all the world to see.  Woohoo.  For some reason, that headline irked the heck out of me.  I've seen it before.  Susan Sarandon plays a role sans make-up. Reese Witherspoon lets herself be seen plain-faced in Wild.  Whatever.  Does anyone believe that models and movie stars wake up without face wrinkles and bad breath?...more

I'd Much Rather Be a Pretty Woman Than a Nice One

I want to be The Comeback Kid, or at the very least, Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. Not a "comeback kid" in the sense that I make some sensational recovery after a fall from grace, but as someone who always has the perfect rejoinder to any jab sent my way. At my worst, I simply look like a dummy who has lost her ventriloquist, mouth agape, wordless, waiting for someone to feed me a line. ...more
From the title I didn't know where this post was going, but I got a great chuckle as soon as I ...more

How The Expectation Of Trying To “Have It All” Is Hurting Us All

I am almost 40 years old, and with my age comes at least a little wisdom; wisdom I wish I had possessed many years before this point in order to save myself much needless heartache....more

Gloria Steinem's 'My Life on the Road' Taught Me I Have So Much Yet to Learn

Anytime I sit down with a book written by Gloria Steinem, I actually pause and reflect before opening the cover. After all, it was her Revolution from Within: A Book of Self-Esteem that rocked my world when I first read it over twenty years ago. Her explanation of core self-esteem versus situational self-esteem forever changed the way I viewed myself, and set me on a healing journey that was long overdue....more
Joan, That is one of the things that struck me the most. She makes connections that I never ...more

How To Stop Your Son From Objectifying Women

If we want society to stop objectifying women, we must subjectify them. We need to give ourselves 3-dimensionality. We hear that stories about women are "chick flicks" or "they won't make any money."  They are marketed to only women. If we value the female experience so little, why should men value it any more? Damsel in distress, Image Credit: Shutterstock...more
Thank you! It is an idea that has been in my head for awhile. I had to get it out. I just don't ...more