FYI an Open Letter to Mothers of Teenage Boys

Yesterday, one of our  friends posted this article, which is in itself an open letter to young girls everywhere that insist on taking scandalous selfies and plastering them on the internet. While we do acknowledge that the youth of today is becoming increasingly sexualized, what comes off as a caring and concerned voice of reason is really, upon further examination, slut- shamey and misogynist. And we don’t like that....more

No Sacred Cows

I’ve been at this blogger-activist thing less than a year, but I know I’ve said it more than once: I strongly believe we have to hold ourselves and our allies to the same standards we do our opponents. This means we can’t allow ourselves to place anyone on a pedestal where criticism can’t reach them, and we can't sweep bad behavior under the proverbial rug....more

Childfree Response to "Of Pleasure and Parenthood"

I call this "On pleasure and personhood -- the final word." Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it. She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it … she apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me. ...more
I'm late to the conversation, but I too feel uncomfortable defending my decision to not have ...more

Excuse Our French, but F*CK Feminism

by D.Z. Walker & C.C. Mendoza of Brown Mommy Media...more

Why We Got Arrested: Women and Immigration Reform

“There are more women than we thought.”...more
Congratulations for all women fighting for what they believe! You are a model for ...more

The "f" word

“Perhaps it’s even a victory of sorts when prominent conservative women can trash the women’s movement, even though without it, they wouldn’t be able to get a credit card.” - Mary Buffett “She said to me that feminism was dated that I should move on. We had a memorable fight. Feminist was dated? For privileged women like my daughter and all of us here today, but not for most of our sisters in the rest of the world who are still forced into premature marriage, prostitution, and forced labor.” - Isabel Allende on her daughter ...more

What I Heard Sheryl Sandberg Say at BlogHer '13

One of the challenges of our instant-expert culture (or instant-shallow, depending on how you look at it) is that almost every message turns into a whisper-down-the-lane game. As an idea or event gets amplified, it loses all its complexity, often becoming a cartoon character of itself: the bigger it gets, the less dimension it has. ...more
@D. A. Wolf So true, this: "May we wall stop buying into the soundbite." But it's so HARD not to ...more

A Letter to My Niece: You Can Be Whatever You Want to Be

Dear Athena, ...more
I love this :)more

Reflections on White Privilege While Raising a Child of Privilege, Part 1: The Silences I Don't Hear

Cross posted from Balancing Jane.  A few days before the 2013 Oscars, I was reading some online commentary about the nominees. In the middle of the page was a picture of Quvenzhané Wallis from the set of Beasts of the Southern Wild. My two-year-old daughter peered over my shoulder, pointed to Wallis’ face, and said her own name....more