Being Neighborly

It seemed to me that my Granny, Virginia Phillips, was always sharing food with her friends and neighbors. She would say, “I just can’t make spee-ghetty (spaghetti) without taking a boiler full out to Katherine’s. She loves it better’n anything.” What an act of love and kindness! Just because Katherine loved her spee-ghetty, she always made a double batch. So much of the attitude of being neighborly is gone....more

Who Says I am Afraid to Date?

The moment comes suddenly, sort of in a rush.  I was feeling fine; comfortable in my skin and pressure-free, when the reality hits me – I am a single woman in a room full of men who are single (presumably) and available (presumably).  I have not had this experience since my 20s.   But now, here I am at this singles meet-up, and suddenly I am uncomfortable. ...more

Laughing So Hard It Hurts

I can't remember for the life of me what the joke was or what was so funny. The laughter and ruckus the two of us were making was so big that the dog started running around in circles and barking. We must have been in one of those punchy moods. You know the kind of mood where a pendulum must keep swinging back and hitting your funny bone and, funny or not, you can't help but laugh at whatever's going on. And when you start laughing, you can't stop. And you don't want to, either. It all started when we decided to take my friend's dog for a walk....more

Girl Code

When a group of girls get together it can be a recipe for crazy fun trouble!  But, I would be lying if I said that it was drama free.  In order to avoid the drama my girls and I have devised a list of the major girl code rules and regulations.  These rules may not work for you, but they have worked for me… 1....more

Perfect Moment Monday: Precious Post


A Duchess, a Princess, and a Queen

This isn’t a story about royalty, or a fairytale.  It is a story about friendship, the boundaries of friendship, and conflict resolution.  I promise it has a happy ending....ContinueLanita Moss A Mother's HoodBirth by Paperwork...more

Cocktails & Crafts: Paint Popsicles!

Follow my blog and Cocktails and Crafts at!   Last night was the inauguration of my brainchild, my "big idea," my attempt at creating something worth doing and following.  Cocktails and Crafts!  Remember, if you want to host a Cocktails and Crafts event, here's how to do it.  The combination of some of my ...more

Love Is...

                                                                                                                                                                                            One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life. That word is love. -Sophocles                                                                                                                                                                      In honor of Valentine's Day festivities, we're going to share a lil blog aloha in a different way, after all, aloha is all about love and a more complete definition of love at that, and  this is a blog, so right there we have blog aloha! Now that you can see how serious this blog post is going to be, I have to dive right in and ask a random trivia question: Can any of our readers remember a cartoon and subsequent figurines apparently popular in the 1970s I think, a line drawing of a little boy and a little girl, always with the subtitle of 'Love is...'  My Uncle and Aunt had a figurine that said something deep like 'Love is...Never having to say your sorry.'  Probably given to my Aunt by her husband in a humorous attempt at an apology; anyone see the irony in that?   ...more
A great valentines day with Aloha is a romantic sunset zip line overlooking the pacific ocean ...more

In Which I Have a Dilemma

God I’m in a terrible mood because once again, I find myself in the middle of a moral and ethical dilemma.  Part of me wonders why this keeps happening to me but truly, I know why.  It keeps happening because I can’t just stand there on the sidelines and watch a train wreck, especially if I know that it’s happening in slow motion and that maybe, just maybe, I could have affected the outcome.  ...more

I do think you do have to say something to the parents. If they choose to be in denial about ...more

You are loved

I was feeling Valentine's Day approach and thought: there are so many people I care about, I want to tell them.So in the last two weeks I mailed 35 hand-drawn and cut-out paper hearts. No note, no return address. Simple love from a secret admirer.It's true that I love you. And, I'm not the only one. ...more