Finding My Place

Originally posted on my blog, Domestic Pirate.I've never seen myself as shy.  Socially awkward?  A little.  But, somehow, I have always managed to make friends in new situations....more

In Praise of Friendship

How did I get so lucky? I have a best friend who also happens to be my husband... who loves me unconditionally, and encourages me to follow my dreams, and keeps me laughing at life. I have friends who choose to spend time with me... who are fun, and creative, and live joyfully with an expectation of good things. I have friends who trust me enough to share with me... who open their hearts, and expose their vulnerabilities, and invite me to learn more about them. ...more

The Last Little Bit

Soul Sisters: Our Circles of Friends Feed Our Spirits

Fresh off a weekend with 11 dear friends, I am exhausted and my voice is still raw, but my soul is rejuvenated replenished. Woven in among the glasses of wine and cocktails, the reading...more

The Silence that Comes with a Health Crisis

I spoke out from the very beginning about it, which resulted in many friends and family members stepping forward and offering their support. Sometimes, their words weren't helpful. At all. In fact, sometimes their words were downright inconsiderate. But do you know what I remember more than the ignorant remarks?  I remember the silence. ...more
@ItsAllRelative How awful. I'm so sorry for your family's loss!more

Our Connections Make Us Whole

In two days, I will head to Colorado for a girlfriend weekend with 10 friends. We’ve rented a house to celebrate the 40th birthdays of three of us.It is a tradition begun when the first of us turned 40. There will be laughing, eating, drinking, inappropriate and weird conversations, and more laughing.For three months, I have looked forward to this trip, but this week I’ve felt oddly apprehensive about this first visit back to my old home....more

What It Feels Like To Be a Woman

My senior year in high school I rode the bus to school on Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays. But not on Tuesdays. On that one day of the week, my friend Michelle was allowed to drive her parents' car to school....more

I'm Trojan

 Last weekend was Homecoming weekend.   On Saturday morning, my daughter’s BFF, her mom, my daughter and I went to get pedicures.  I love getting pedicures.  I dread getting pedicures.  I always feel so bad for the person who draws the short straw and gets to work on me.  Poor Jimmy drew the short straw. ...more

Choosing Sides

When I was in grade school, a rift developed in the group of friends that I belonged to. I can’t remember the reason for the split, but there was a clear division and so you were on one side or the other. I picked one, but I guess my heart wasn’t really in it, because I remember saying to one of the girls, that even though I was on the other side, I would still speak to her, albeit in secret....more

Always The Bridesmaid...and Godmother...and Party Planner, Never The Bride Or Anything Else Particularly Cool

Firstly, please forgive me for the cliche title and secondly, before you judge me as a jealous, wicked stepsister type, hear me out. I am so very happy for my friends. They have found wonderful men to share their lives with and I am honored to stand by them while they start their new journeys. I am also thrilled that some of them are popping out babies...on purpose. (Confession: I don't know if I'll ever get used to that. It still makes me shudder, cute as they are. )...more
My beef with my married and kidded friends is that they speak to me as if my single status has ...more