Dear Sister-Friend: Please Don't Ask Me For A Job Reference

One of the best things about the office is meeting some really cool women who share similar interests. Those women often become some of your best girlfriends and the friendships often last longer than the job. (For more on that, see my post: 3 Reasons Why You Need a Sister-Friend at Work.)  But what happens when your sister-friend who used to work with you and was not the best employee, calls you and asks for a job reference?...more

The view from inside...

It felt as if I were in Mrs. Repulski's Advanced Humanities class again."I'd better explain this better," my English teacher abruptly would interrupt her own lecture, adding: "Sara looks confused."It's rather embarrassing at times, but my face is nothing but honest.  If I were confused, it showed. Mrs. Repulski would then take the time to explain the material again, perhaps a different way, reading my face to measure the entire class's level of understanding. That was high school....more

The True Beauty of Girlfriends

We all have friends.  In school we had friends we played tag with, other friends we shared are secrets with, other friends we got in trouble with, and other friends that stayed over your house, so much they became family.  As I grow older, I am noticing a significant difference in the friends I have now, as an adult, than I did as a child, or even a young-adult.  I now can sa...more

On friendship and walls and feeling left out

I don't really know how to start this post well. I do know most of this is my own fault. And I'm not looking for sympathy. But sometimes, sometimes, I just feel so incredibly left out. And so incredibly lonely. It's not that I don't have friends, because I do! And they are great and ready to jump in and help if I ask for it. I'm so lucky for that. I know this and I'm thankful for this. This is not about that though. This is about me feeling that I just don't have close friends. ...more

3 Reasons Why You Need A Sister-Friend At Work

Should you make friends at work? Tons of research and one blogging sister-friend says absolutely!  You can Google the research yourself but I will save you some time and tell you that people who report having a good friend at work are often happier and more successful in the workplace....more

You Matter -- Yes, YOU!

I learned a valuable lesson yesterday.  We all matter.  Each and everyone of us.  We even matter to people we have not, nor ever will, physically meet.  We matter.  You matter.  No 'matter' what you may think, you influence people.  People watch you.  People learn from you.  People are inspired by you.  You matter....more

Be Better, Not Basic!

"What they doThey smile in your faceAll the time they want to take your placeThe back stabbers (back stabbers)" -The O'Jays, Backstabbers 1972 Eddie Levert and The O'Jays was ahead of their time in 1972 when they released Backstabbers. Backstabbers is an ole school term of calling one of your "so called" friends who turned against you. In 2014, we call them haters. Haters are not your motivators!...more

To forget

 Sometimes, we just want to forget but it is just so difficult. We keep telling ourselves and mumbling out that we should let go and we should move on, but internally our heart have not release. That will lead us to living a double life....more

What to Do If You Think Your Friend Is Racist

Dear Mouthy Housewives,I think a friend of mine is kind of racist. She always mentions if someone is black or Jewish or Hispanic. She doesn't say anything negative, but she whispers their ethnicity when it's not pertinent. Like: "There's a new waiter at the wine place. He's BLACK." She says it in this derogatory way.Should I say something or just let it go?Signed,Am I Friends with a Racist Person?...more
Several years ago, the local news tried to eliminate the racial descriptions of people who were ...more

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