The thing about girls and math...

When I was in fifth grade, I missed a few days of school due to sickness and when I came back, I had some trouble getting up to speed on fractions. They were hard and awful and I cried at school one day because I thought that I would never understand them. And I am pretty sure that in that moment, I decided I wasn't good at math....more

Challenging genders norms might be blinding men with gynecomastia

Do you know what gynecomastia is? It's the condition when men develop abnormal breast tissue, popularly known as man boobs. While women run after the perfect beach body, men also want to show off a toned chest, so man boobs are definitely a huge problem for them, in terms of appearance....more

Getting rid of the term "tomboy"

My Mother put me in a dress almost every single day. (And looking back over family photos, a large number of them were plaid...) My room was done in a very flowery Laura Ashley pattern (wait - weren't all Laura Ashley patterns flowery?) and my favorite color was pink. I had lots of My Little Ponies and baby dolls and Barbies. I was sometimes referred to as a girlie-girl....more

Mommy says yes to books

Earlier this week, I wrote about my struggle to incorporate math into the bedtime story routine. (Still working/not working on that one.) Part of that struggle comes from the fact that I have always enjoyed reading more than math. So, I am always on the lookout for a good book deal....more

And here's something else that would never happen to a man ...

And here’s something else that would never happen to a man ... So this guy in our neighborhood has early Alzheimers and dizzy spells.  He’s looking for a babysitter (his word) and someone to cook for him and do his cleaning so he doesn’t have to go into a home.  And he asked me.I have no experience babysitting.  And absolutely no aptitude for it. Yes, I do my own cooking and cleaning, but I have no interest in it, at all, and do as little as possible....more

What Effect Is Gender Specific Play Having On Our Children’s Development?

In nearly every shop across the country, children’s toys are categorised into two very distinct groups: those for boys and those for girls. Even toys that have no specific need for a gender usually end up plastered in pink or blue, depending on the manufacturer’s wishes. But is this gender segregation really necessary at all?  ...more

Let's talk about Class, baby, let's talk about you and me

I am re-posting this from my own blog because of the interest it has generated there. Many women have told me they appreciate this breaking of the silence of the issue that dare not speak its name in America: Class. Original post on Somewhere in Transition at: love your goes:Let's talk about Class, baby, let's talk about you and me......more

Why I Don't Want to Know My Baby's Gender

I can't even remember why we walked into our 20-week ultrasound with baby #5 having decided that we didn't want to know the gender.With child number 1, 2, 3, and 4 Phillip and I never even thought to ask each other, "Do you want to find out whether it's a boy or a girl?" That was just what you did at 20 weeks.But for whatever reason, we told the ultrasound tech not to tell us with #5, and I'm really glad we did.Because that particular pregnancy was the one where I learned by experience that sometimes things go NOTHING like you'd planned....more

Teaching girls to be afraid

Like most parents, I have noticed that my son plays differently with me than he does with my husband. With me, he wants Mommy to do things with him or for him and he tends to choose activities that aren't risky. With my husband, he wants to try new things, explore the world a bit more and generally tumble around. ...more

Intersectional Feminism as a Path to Unity

Combatting oppression can be extremely daunting – oftentimes, it feels necessary to just check out of the fight altogether. I would like to say (perhaps foolishly) that most people have a goal of combatting oppression in some sense of the word; as with most things in life, I’d also assume that most people have a different idea about what is the most effective way to go about it. Ideally, there would be a singular method to eradicate inequality....more
We all have to take pause at times, most especially when we stereotype in assumptions. A will to ...more