My father-in-law died this week, a little more than a year since my mother-in-law passed. The year without his beloved Rose Marie was torture for him. He spoke of her often and of his desire to be united with her.   He left peacefully on a Tuesday evening, surrounded by his children. My sad, sweet husband was there, along with his two sisters....more


We were parked haphazardly in a gravel driveway.  If I rolled down the windows and listened hard enough I could hear the faint notes coming from Mrs. Duncan's piano studio. My oldest son was playing. ...more

A Hug is Worth a Thousand Words

Ripped Away

June 14, 2001 -CaliforniaI was on top of the world...bursting at the seams..literally and figuritively.One and a half days of work until my maternity leave started.I wanted a few days to put the finishing touches on the Curious George nursery.Some time to enjoy being a husband and wife before we became a daddy and mommy.I was doing meaningful work I loved with fantastic, supportive co-workers....more

What Might Have Been

Dear JB,I can't celebrate my oldest son's birthday without thinking of you because it is yours as well. Or was yours-though you left us a week before you turned eighteen. You would have been twenty-nine this year and I can't help but imagine how differently life would have been had you not beenripped away. ...more

I Was An Unexpected Pallbearer.

He stepped out into the bright sunlight and paused to let his eyes transition from the hospital's harsh florescent lights. He was very aware of the typical hustle all around.Cars. Noise. Errands. Lists. Jobs. Responsibilities. Life. Kids to pick up from school. Phone calls and texts to answer. Groceries needed for dinner. Gas to put in the car. Bills to pay. Stores to open.He was surprised to see that everything was still moving. Almost shocked to see that everyone was still carrying on with their days....more

My Mother's Body Got Lost

I'm trying to plan my mother's funeral, but we have a problem. We can't find her. My mother passed away Saturday after a long illness. I had all the funeral arrangement planned months in advance, so I was prepared when the inevitable happened. After she died, I contacted the proper authorities to transport her body 100 miles to her hometown of Wendell, Idaho for the funeral and burial. ...more
Glad to hear you found your mother. I know it must have been a frustrating time. I've heard the ...more

Good Grief

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Guided Imagery Tools to Help You

Brenda Coffee@1010ParkPlacehttp://www.1010parkplace.comTwo weeks ago I wrote about how each of us needs to step back from our busy lives and find time to be still; to connect with our voice within. If you’ve never heard that little voice, then you’re not listening. I’m not talking about hearing voices. I’m referring to our internal compass that’s privy to things we’ve forgotten; things we don’t want to remember; the instinctual thing deep inside us that says, “Don’t walk down that street.”...more


She sits on the couch in complete darkness, hugging a worn pillow so tightly her fingers go numb.  The silence is sharp and she imagines she can actually hear the tears as they escape despite her best effort.  She flinches at the wetness and vows to imprison her emotions more tightly; even as she feels the pressure building in her chest, even as breathing becomes more difficult because of the force of her feelings.  She knows it’s a lost cause....more