Nothing Changes Until You Do

In a recent session with my counselor Eleanor, she said something simple, but profound to me; “Nothing changes until you do.” She went on to say, “Mike, you keep trying to control and manipulate the situations, relationships, and outcomes in your life – thinking that if they changed in the way you want them to, you’d then change and things would be better. It actually works the other way around.”...more

Doing What You Love: Myth or Worthwhile Dream?

Do you do what you love and get paid for it? There's the big dream of "do what you love and the money will follow". How realistic is it? Is getting paid for what you love a myth? A dream worth following? Here's a post that takes a little different slant to this age old question. ...more
Not a myth but you need to prepare and plan for how you're going to do it. Sometimes it means ...more

What Brings You Joy? Stop. Think. Make a List.

Today Daily Word  talked about what it is that brings us joy.  They suggested creating a “joy chest” of photographs, quotes, ideas, etc. that we can refer to when looking for joy in our lives. I smiled thinking about my blog. I seem to capture all those things right here. But I also decided to make a list of what brings me joy....more

Making Peace

Originally posted on January 3, 2013 at Two Martini Lunch....more

Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Give Yourself a Gift

Dr. Romance writes:Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness.Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on external circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is to get in charge of your life and what you are doing. Then you can build the life you want....more

Getting to Gratitude and Happiness

 Gratitude.  It’s so much of what the holiday season is about – and if we’re lucky and intentional – we create ways of showing our gratitude for the life we have throughout the year....more

Are You Happy?

As I was on Facebook yesterday, my youngest son popped open a chat box.  "Momma, are you happy?" was the first thing he typed.  He said he was just thinking of me and worried whether I was happy or not.Am I happy?  I raised a son who takes the time out of his day to check on me.  How could I not be happy knowing that?  He has grown in to a wonderful man who is empathetic, loving, and kind.  There is nothing more a mother could ask for....more

Lower IQ generally means less happiness

A study of 6,870 people age 16 and older compared verbal IQ (using the National Adult Reading test) and a 3-point happiness scale to look for correlations.They found that:1. Those with the highest IQ (120-129) were the happiest2. Those with the lowest IQ (70-99) were the least happy3. Factors like health, income, daily activities and "neurotic symptoms" impacted the level of happiness, reducing the link between IQ and happiness by about half....more

If You Don't Change, How Will Your Life Change?

Throughout my life, I hear women talk about how they want things to change in their life.  It could be dealing with a person in their life, not feeling happy, lack of balance.  The funny thing is......more

World's happiest man - while meditating on compassion - is off the measurable charts

I heard this on NPR a couple days ago: According to neuroscientists, the world's happiest man is a Buddhist monk (and molecular geneticist and confidant of the Dalai Lama) named Matthieu Ricard.He says you can train your brain to be happy through meditation - just like you can train your body with weights.Neuroscientists studied lots of people while meditating and found that Ricard's gamma wave production (linked to learning, memory, attention and consciousness) were so high that they'd never been reported before in scientific literature....more