Reviewing Finding Me by Michele Knight

 I just finished reading Michele Knight's book , Finding Me, about her survival from 11 years of rape and torture in captivity. Her voice is very direct and clear. She descibes her abuse but leaves some things private, which I applaud her for doing.  She lets us know some of how she struggled and survived. Her abuse was horrendous beyond imagining. She needed to tell her story and I am glad she did. Her determination to live was heroic. She has all my admiration and support. At first, I was concerned that she has apparently had no therapy work on her torment....more

Another Book Signing and Talk in PA today.

Today I met with the staff of an organization that helps survivors of sexual abuse and educates the public. I read some poems, showed the paintings and gave a talk from my book Enfolded in Silence/A Story in Art of Healing from Sexual Trauma in Childhood (Amazon.com).  I talked about how you heal from child sexual abuse. It was well recieved and I may do more work for their organization in the future. Doing this kind of thing is so rewarding for me. I want to give back the healing I have been given.  More book signings coming up this summer....more

June is PTSD Month /EMDR, an effective treatment for PTSD in sexual abuse survivors

 from my book, Enfolded in Silence/A Story in Art of Healing from Sexual Trauma in Childhood (Amazon.com) :...more
Barbarahughes Dr E Agreed.  I guess I view staying the Captain of our own Soul meaning for me, ...more

Would You Remove Your Cast Before Your Broken Arm Is Healed?

My dad asked me this the other day after he read my previous blog post, "Journey in Trying to Calm the Hell Down."  He was concerned when he saw that I was getting anxious about returning to work.  He was concerned that all the effort I've put in during the past few weeks to calm my mind and gut down would all go to hell if I boarded the anxiety train again.  He asked me not to worry about returning to work, in that he meant for me not to return to work.  He again told me to fuck everything, (when I...more
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Healing Chicken Alphabet Soup

When Families Evolve: What Happens When We Lose Our Matriarchs?

This holiday morning, I read one of those "Dear Dad" Facebook posts from a son missing his dad on this holiday. Easter was always very important to his dad, and he passed away this year, so the pain is fresh and his absence palpable. We often see such posts because, of course, families around the globe gather at holidays. Our mothers, especially, play huge roles in uniting us. The thought makes me wonder, what happens to families that lose the matriarchs and patriarchs who brought those families together? ...more

My book on healing from sexual abuse is now $13.50 on Amazon

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EMDR, a treatment for sexual assault

EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is a treatment for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  It has been used effectively for veterans coming back from war and for others who have experienced trauma, including survivors of childhood sexual abuse and sexual assault at any age. It is a process that stimulates opposite sides of the brain (my therapist tapped alternately on my right and left knees), and breaks up the neural pathways that go from the trigger to the reliving of the trauma....more

Having Sexual Feelings during Sexual Abuse does NOT amount to Consent

Many people who are being sexually abused have sexual feelings during the process. It is a natural body response. This does NOT mean that they consented in the abuse.  Most people come out of sexual abuse believing that it was, at least partly, their fault because of the sexual feelings they were forced or seduced into having.  That is why many people do not come forward when they have been sexually assaulted. Sex with someone who has power over you is sexual abuse. It is completely the fault and responsibility of the one in power....more

Book Signing A Success

My book signing yesterday was a big success from my point of view. A lot of people came and bought books and listened to my readings and lecture about how you heal from sexual abuse. I got good feedback about it all. Some people told me how personally helpful it was. That was the point of doing it. And spreading the word about sexual abuse and what it costs people. I am pleased. I want to do it again, farther a field. Any suggestions about venues?...more