Phases of Coping with a Cheating Partner.. Before You Let Go

Phases of Coping with a Cheating Partner.. Before You Let Go Having a cheating partner is for me, the worst thing that can happen to anyone. It drains your self-esteem, humiliates you, cheapens you and just makes you question the goodness of everything. It doesn't matter what reasons or justifications are given... It's destructive and it hurts. ...more

Interview: Mistresses Speak Out

Through out history, the mistress has been the villain that everyone hated.  She has always been seen as the home wrecker with no morals or respect for marriage or relationships.  That seemed to have changed a bit when Kerry Washington hit the scene as Olivia Pope in the hit tv show, Scandal.  Week after week, fans took to social media to root on the mistress of the President of the United States and being the other woman didn't seem to be so bad...at least on tv....more

Why Do We Place So Much Blame On "Homewreckers"?

Editor's Note: This blog was written in partial response to The Real Scandal: Homewreckers Are NOT Heroines!, which has been featured on BlogHer. - Feminista Jones ...more
I think that the main reason why we put a lot of emphasis on the Home Wrecker is because we live ...more

Confession - I am a Former IF Blogger

If you've ever blogged through infertility (IF), you know that some of your fellow IF bloggers graduated to become mommybloggers, while other women became adoption bloggers before becoming mommybloggers, while others simply disappeared. I am one of the disappeared. When I was going through infertility treatment hell, I kept a blog called InSpring.  I selected that name because I wanted my 40 year old insides to become as young and fertile as spring.  I wanted to give birth in spring, or get pregnant in spring - it didn't matter which, I wanted to have a baby. ...more
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Are Your Friendships Jeopardizing Your Relationship?

Several years ago, I discovered that a boyfriend of mine had forwarded a private email that I sent to him to a female co-worker. This was the very same co-worker whom he admitted openly flirted with him at work. His reason for sharing the email? He wanted her “input” on the issue he and I were having. Not only was it ridiculous for him to involve someone that he worked with in our personal affairs, but it stung knowing that this strange woman was interested in him, and now was privy to MY relationship problems....more
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Is Infidelity Really "The Sweetest Taboo"?

Infidelity is a story as old as time: the Greek god Zeus coupling with any woman who caught his fancy, the Bible story of David and Bathsheba that ended in the death of Bathsheba’s husband, Ovid’s early self-help bookon male and female seduction and keeping your mistress/man happy. Emperors, queens, nobility, and common people have always engaged in amorous trysts, and so do we in today’s society.   ...more
A person cheats because he or she is unhappy in their relationship. Infidelity is never only the ...more

THE WORDS THAT COME AFTER I'M SORRY

THE WORDS THAT COME AFTER I’M SORRY ...more

Is An Affair Ever "Acceptable"?

Adulterous affairs have pretty much always been seen as wrong, but are some less wrong?  The “other woman” has traditionally been the scorned party, a negative force. But is this changing?  Is adultery becoming more acceptable?...more

If He'll Cheat With You...

Back Story:  In September of 1999, I found lipstick on his collar but he said “it was only dinner” and he started going to therapy.  Things got better between us.  Then Fartbuster told me in April of 2000 that he wanted to move out for a while and “get his head straight.”  Three weeks later, he comes clean (on the advice of his therapist) that he had had an affair in the fall....more

Forgive or Forget Him

 Some men will cheat, however, the less complicit we are as women the easier it becomes to reclaim, not just the moral high-ground but also the option to forgive or forget him. ...more