Coming Out at Work

For some, coming out at work is big news and has potentially serious consequences. In the case of Jason Collins, the NBA player who recently came out, it was international news. Fortunately, he got mostly positive responses. I didn't know what would happen when I recently came out at my small office... ...more
So happy for you!  Glad to read you are happy!more

Fired for Being Gay or Not Being Willing to Lie?

It happens with regularity: Another beloved, high-performing employee is fired because someone's discriminatory panties get in a twist. Today's example: After 19 years as a physical education teacher for the Roman Catholic Diocese of Columbus, Carla Hale was fired last month after an anonymous parent complained to the school that she had listed her female partner's name in her mother's obituary. ...more
Where's the catholic in Catholic?more

2013 Day of Silence: Teens Go Silent For LGBT Equality

This Friday, April 19th, my daughter and some of her friends won't be uttering a single a word. For a whole day, they won't say anything at all. Is this some sort of parent-of-teens pipe dream come true? Not exactly; it's the 2013 Day of Silence. Does refusing to talk for a day change anything? This is an event designed to build awareness, so it's hard to measure cause and effect directly, of course. ...more
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Because It's Only Forever: Uniformity in School Pics Is Overrated Anyway

This week the ladies had class portraits taken at school. Not individual portraits, which are taken at the beginning of the year, but a picture of the entire class with the teacher, and which are infinitely cooler than the ones taken when we were kids. The girls love having photos taken and I wouldn’t have otherwise given such a pro forma event a second thought were it not for the small fact that last year, my eldest photobombed her kindergarten class portrait....more
@Caroline Poser Thanks so much! Isn't it remarkable how, even as infants, our children are so ...more

Coming Out: Today's Generation

A few weeks ago, while my #23til23 challenge was in full swing, I mentioned how I had written a letter to my extended family, coming out as both a lesbian and a blogger. I never actually finished editing the letter, and I never actually sent it, but the letter has been lurking in the back of my mind (and notebook), waiting to be sent....more

10 Things TO Say to Lesbian Moms

It may not quite be an Internet meme, but several writers in the past month have offered their thoughts on what not to say to lesbian moms. Judy Gold at HuffPo gives a personal story about "The Question You Should Never Ask a Lesbian Mom"; Jeanne Sager at The Stir lists "5 Things Never to Say to Lesbian Moms"; Te-Erika Patterson at Mom.me writes of "What Not to Say to LGBT Parents"; and L. A. Pintea at Parents.com relates "10 Things You Shouldn't Ask a Lesbian Mom." It's enough to make people think they should never approach us. I'd like to turn things around here, and suggest several things you should say to lesbian moms....more
People get touchy over the parenting thing. I get touchy over the parenting thing. There are ...more

Not that kind of Christian

In case you weren’t sure, I’m a Christian.  But wait, I’m notthat kind of Christian. I’ve felt it and said it dozens of times. Have you? You know, when someone finds out you are a Christian and you feel like you must clarify, or worse, apologize? We see the pictures on Facebook. We read the stories on HuffPost. We watch the videos on YouTube. We hear the stories of people hurt deeply. ...more

It's Simple: I'm Gay, or Coming Out To Your Employers

They say the best stories are simple and true in the telling. This is mine.I’m gay.Strictly speaking, I’m bisexual. I have loved men and I have loved women. I am typically more attracted to women, but I have had several boyfriends. I just got out of a long-term relationship with a woman. I’m gay....more

La Leche League Rejects Transgendered Man, So I Resigned

When I began my journey to becoming a La Leche League Leader, if someone had told me I would send my resignation a few short years later, with a flourish over a transgendered man, I would have raised my eyebrows, and laughed.Yet, here I am. ...more
Thank you for speaking out and sharing.  Hopefully as suggested in the comment thread, this will ...more

Stereotypes Run Wild in NBC's "The New Normal"

When I first heard that NBC was going to air a new series about a gay couple having a baby with a surrogate, I was hopeful. It's been a long time since the controversy surrounding the infamous Ellen episode where she came out (I had to watch this on a satellite dish since I was in Alabama at the time and it was banned)....more
There are a few stereotypes in this show, but I don’t think it’s nearly as bad as you say. ...more