It's true: Your teen isn't listening to you

One of the hardest parts of being a parent is that you have this person in your life that you are completely responsible for, but you can't actually control. Yes, you can influence, encourage, support and punish this person. But, in the end, they are a separate individual from you and going to do things their own way and you just have to take a back seat and deal with it (preferably without losing your temper)....more

Let's pretend you didn't say that

When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I started curbing my swearing. Admittedly, it had gotten a little out of hand as I was working for a company that had a stress-inducing, boy's club environment, and f-bombs were dropped by multiple people in every meeting....more

Listen First, Train Later.

 Photo by Patrick McMahan...more

Selective Hearing

Accordingly to the sound expert Julian Treasure (http://www.juliantreasure.com), we spend 60% of our communication time listening but only retain 25% of what we hear—25%!—So if you feel that you are not being heard, you are likely entirely accurate....more

Calming Signals: Are You Listening?

 If you are standing next to your horse and he looks away, do you think he’s distracted or even disrespectful? When your horse yawns, is he sleepy or bored? If he moves slowly, is he lazy? These are important cues from your horse, are you hearing him correctly?...more

Now Listen Hear!

photoDoesn’t anybody just listen anymore?  I mean really listen? To anyone?...more

Stop Assumption

The other day a friend shared an image on Facebook - you know, one of those memes that eventually makes its way into everyone's newsfeed - about a current contentious issue, which, predictably, set off a firestorm of comments among the people on her friends list. I'll admit it: I lurked. ...more
SueCat Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I am definitely all for standing up and ...more

The Listening Gift

Gift giving comes in many forms. It can be intangible and it can be subliminal.  During this holiday season of giving perhaps someone new will enter your life. A new friendship may be on the horizon. Wouldn’t it be great going in with a new skill?  This skill is called Active Listening.Active listening is a term used in many forms of coaching. It requires stillness and total presence with no judgment, no need to be right, defensive nor should there be any distraction.  Without pure objectivity, you cannot really hear. ...more

Listening

December 12, Our Lady of GuadalupeLk. 1:26-38...more

The Voice in my Silence