What I Learned About Parenting at BlogHer '11

I have a Case of the Mondays combined with a Case of the Post-BlogHer Blues combined with a wicked case of jetlag. I'm behind on work, my inbox seems to have imploded and the laundry pile is mocking me. Despite all of the stuff I can or should be doing, I have purposefully been taking time all day to play games with my sons, read some books and generally soak them up. I missed them a lot while I was away like many other moms (and dads!) at the conference did. In fact, while I was away from them and experiencing all of those things that come with conference life and interactions with new people, I thought about how some of the things I was learning could enhance my parenting. ...more
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The different faces of health

I have been ruminating over the fact that "health" looks different on every person. Just like no two people look the same, no two healthy lifestyles look the same. Sometimes we get caught up in the idea that the healthy way we live is the healthy way everyone should live, but this isn't necessarily the case. ...more

Awakening the wild mind

“What writing, like Zen practice, does is bring you back to the natural state of mind, the wilderness of your mind where there are no refined rows of gladiolas. The mind is raw, full of energy, alive and hungry. It does not think in the way we were brought up to think – well-mannered, congenial.” - Natalie GoldbergTo listen, and to honour what I hear. ...more

How To Really Listen To Your Teenagers

People often marvel how I know when teenagers are lying. Putting aside the fact for a moment that there is nothing new under the sun, our kids themselves don’t seem to realise we too were young once and tried on the same dumbass antics. ...more

Is Something Weighing You Down?

In any relationship, issues inevitably arise from time to time that have the potential to create tension and conflict. It’s not the issues themselves that are the main cause for relationship breakdown but how you go about resolving them....more

They are growing up.....and that's ok by me....

I just want my kids to be themselves.....really. It seems like there is so much information out there about connecting with our kids, doing a better job than the "obviously detached" generation of parents before us, reading our kids "signs"...but even still.... so many parents can't do it. Why does it seem so easy for some to turn down the volume on their children's voices? I knew early on in my journey of becoming a mom that the one thing I wanted so badly for my child(ren), was to simply grow up.... That's right...I WANTED them to grow up....more

New Year & New Goals

Since May of 2008 I have been dealing with chronic pain of basilar and hemipelegic migraines.  It has caused me to not work, not drive and most of all not be able to live on my own.  I have lost my independence 100%.  As I enter into 2011 I realize that I want to do more with my life and do more with the gifts and talents that I do have....more

Listening to Life

I was drinking a cup of coffee in a little restaurant and over the following conversation between two young women and an older (my age) woman who were seated nearby."When we were in Ireland," one of the girls said, "people asked us what we were going to do for a living. We told them we didn't know yet. Then they asked us where we would live when we got out of school. We told them we weren''t sure about that either--there were so many places we liked."...more

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Drawing the Line

For me, there’s a difference between maintaining my personal boundaries and drawing the line. My personal boundaries signal self-validation and affirmation while drawing the line can be motivated by changeable circumstances and variables. My personal boundaries are non-negotiable, but I may choose not to use indelible ink when I feel compelled to draw the line....more

Healing Heartache, Part 2: Listen

This is the 2nd part is a series about Healing Heartache.Ever met anyone who succeeded in convincing him/herself heartache was no big deal? Ever believed him/her? Ever believe yourself? It is a big deal, beyond a big deal. And it doesn't go away. And it doesn't just take care of itself. And time doesn't heal it. Heartache, if left unhealed, can be like a slow emotional suicide. And I for one am very done 'dying.'...more