A Sad Anniversary

One year ago today - can it really be that long? - we said goodbye to our Spidercat. She was 20 years old, had lived with me for 19, and was the dearest, sweetest cat I have ever known. She'd been in my life for so long it felt as though she was a part of me, and letting her go was heartwrenching. ...more


In November, I brought our old girl dog to our veterinarian. She had began losing weight and developed a bad cough. I worried she might have pneumonia....more

When Will We Stop Counting the 9/11s?

It's September 11 again. And I'm dreading it. I want September 11 to go back to being just another day in the early fall. Is this wrong?...more
Thank you for sharing. My husband and I were just sharing similar sentiments on the evening of ...more

Sweet Memories: Remembering the Sugar in the Sour Moments of Grief

Image from Courtney's blog, OurSmallMoments.com...more

Death, Loss And Their Potential To Awaken Life

As I sat in a local breakfast spot with two of my best girlfriends this morning I received a phone call that a young woman my family knows passed away in a drowning accident yesterday evening. She was a local middle school teacher who left behind her husband and two young children, both under the age of four....more
@elaineR.N. Elaine and Melanie! How good to see you here, when I return this morning. I had to ...more

I Lost A Friend At BlogHer'13

So. I lost a friend at BlogHer '13. I realized I was being ignored right away after I got home from Chicago, I felt it in my heart. This friend, she's usually engaging and funny and always had a kind word for me across all the social platforms.She was strangely silent for a few days, and my first feeling was fear. I was afraid something awful happened in her life. She wasn't answering texts or phone calls from me at all. I saw she was actively posting on Facebook and I figured they were scheduled posts....more
@SunbonnetSmart.com You think? You never really knew me at all did you?    Signed: The Real ...more

Life is Hard

A boy breaks your heart Another boy breaks your heart You have to break a boys heart You lose a relative You lose a parent You lose a best friend<...more

Lament for a house

  Three and one half years ago, my husband bought us a house at an “Undisclosed location”.Sure it was a weekend get away and I did manage to have an actual week off there last year, but it was cozy, it was comfortable and the back room was bright.It was a good spot to spend a third of our week at, which we seemed to do year round. We had to get serious, as when my husband sold our house in Philly, we were turning our minds to retirement living, We decided we needed a rancher.Not that this old house isn’t, but, we wanted a house to live the rest of our days out in. ...more

Sad music can heal your broken heart by rewiring your brain

New research published in 2013 shows that people prefer certain music based on recent experiences. So if you just got in an argument with a rude person in the parking lot, you'll want to get in your car and listen to "angry" music. Ditto with a bad break-up and sad music. Music therapists explain that matching your music to your mood makes you feel understood, wich in turn provides a release that (eventually) allows you to move on with your life....more