I don't watch enough TV

My husband and I don't have enough shared television shows. This is entirely my fault. I don't pick up new shows very frequently and so there is often a dearth of entertainment for us to watch together at the end of a long working day....more

How Cutting Cable Can Improve Your Marriage

On July 14th Brandon and I finally made the decision to cut our cable service with Comcast and I’m here today to tell you that cutting cable was one of the BEST decisions we’ve made lately. I mean, let’s face it, it’s not like their programming is all that great anyway....more

A New Marriage Tradition

Even though we both know it’s important to establish marriage traditions, we haven’t done anything too specific or too regularly to actually call something a marriage tradition other than Grinch and Grilled Cheese. That is, until now. Any guesses from the photo? That’s right, we’ve been drinking tea together. Specifically, we’ve been watching television together (currently The Great British Bake Off) and drinking tea and eating cookies after dinner. Two things The Mister LOVES but we’ve never really done together on a regular basis because until recently I’ve hated tea....more

I'm Married -- But I'm Still Independent

Independent - single - women.This is a term that's used quite frequently in our culture. When I was single I used to love referring to myself as this empowering three-word description. Then, when I started dating my now husband and eventually got married to him - I felt left out. I was officially out of the strong and single club. Was I no longer a fierce force of nature because I was married? Did I really lose all of my independence?...more

My First Marriage Was a Disaster - And I'm Thankful For That

Aging. It really gives you some perspective. It changes the way you see the world and your former, younger self.Now approaching my 40s, I think back to my first marriage and I can feel the grimace forming on my face. It’s like looking back at a car accident you almost can’t bear to watch....more

When Workers Hit on Me

When my apartment got flooded a few weeks ago on an early Tuesday morning, a group of workers showed up from a cleaning and restoration company. ...more

I'm on the Divorce Welcoming Committee

When I was getting divorced, no one told me, “Congratulations!” or “Good job!” Instead, they frowned, rubbed my shoulders and wanted to cry. Only, I was euphoric; I was liberated from my controlling husband and it wasn’t easy taking the final steps to leave. ...more


Marriage. Who knew one little word could carry such incredible weight? It is quite hard to wrap my brain around the emotions that overcome us, the experiences we have shared and the decisions that are placed in our hands, each and every day through marriage.When I married Nathan, four years ago today, I was a different Ashli. He will tell you that too, but he a different Nathan....more


I am easily swayed. Feed me a line that sounds halfway decent and reasonable, and suddenly I 100% agree with you/back you up. Liberal arts college was a hard one for me because I started to believe Debater #1, but then really fell for whatever points Debater #2 brought to the table. By the end of class I was really confused about what we were even discussing, much less what my true feelings about said subject were. Can I just be on everyone's side?...more