Life Begins Again

They say that life begins at 40. Maybe that's true, but for me, a new version of life begins after 42 - years of marriage, that is. Life has had many "beginnings" for me. When I was born, when I was adopted at 3 months, when I married at 16, when each of my children was born, when I finished my bachelor's degree and started teaching at age 45.  Another beginning came when I met my birth mother and siblings, and that is one beginning that I am still processing....more

Make a Sexy Music Playlist - A Simple Way to Energize Your Sex Life

You know those days when you want/plan/hope to do something fun and sexy with your husband, but by the end of the day sex is at the bottom of your to-do list and falling fast?  Here's a little trick I learned recently that can help  keep your mind revved up for sex, even in the middle of crazy days - make a sexy music playlist and listen to it throughout the day.  Music that energizes you and makes you feel sexy can go a long way in counteracting the libido-suppressing effects of the daily grind!  Her...more

A Very Long Conversation

6 Tips for Choosing the Perfect Wedding Venue

I think choosing a wedding venue is one of the most important decisions you’ll make during the wedding planning. This is especially true if you’re like Dave and I, and had the ceremony and reception at the same venue.Quite often, venues have onsite catering as well. So you’re not just choosing the space for the wedding, but the food as well! The staff will set up the ceremony and reception, serve dinner, make sure everything runs smoothly, etc. It’s an important decision....more
A friend who is a photographer (Angela Michelle Powell Woulfe) took her daughter's fifth year ...more

Hope and Bravery and Beginning Again

Once upon a time, when we were newly arrived in North Carolina by way of two years in Alaska, I was frustrated and stressed and we were out of money.See, when we left Alaska, I resolved to myself that I would no longer teach. Teaching was something that didn't bring me joy. It brought stress and frustration, but it also brought money that was much needed.And so, when we got to NC, I didn't apply for teaching jobs. I subbed, but my focus was elsewhere - I was looking for something else....more

Counterintuitive Thinking about Marriage

Here's another way to think about marriage and money. It’s counterintuitive to think about widowhood or divorce when you’re getting married. Few women do.However, without thinking of the consequences of letting our husband manage our money, we set ourselves up for financial vulnerability. We trust him to be making financial choices that will benefit us both. Sometimes he is; sometimes he isn’t. Most of the time, he’s not thinking of our future without him....more

There's Nothing Romantic about Money

I met a financial advisor years ago who had the most seductively soothing bedside manner. He had been recommended by a friend who said this man was ‘really great working with widows’.The advisor explained that it’s hard for women whose husband had managed the investments to understand how the market works. “Ultimately, it comes down to your peace of mind and the trust we establish in the relationship”, he said....more

Reverse Bucket List

Dreaming and planning for our future is so important. We should be always striving to grow and improve, but we should also strive to appreciate what we have. It’s important that while we’re dreaming for what we want to do, we remember what we have done and what we’ve accomplished. I’ve done some awesome, fun things in my life and I want to continue to remind myself of that....more

Why It’s Okay to Have a Kid-Free Wedding

When you get engaged and start planning a wedding, you inadvertently open yourself up the opinions of others…whether or not you ask for them. People will have opinions on everything from your dress to whether or not it’s acceptable to have a kid-free wedding. I found the best course of action to be a nod and a smile. But when I read this post last week about why it’s selfish to have a kid-free wedding, I felt compelled to respond....more

Communication unfogs our cloudy lens

One of the most important components of any relationship is communication. Because we all see through different lens, it gaurantees that we will view the world, others, their actions, and so on differently. My husband and I have a come to Jesus meeting at least 3 times a year, 4 times on a good one. Recently, yesterday, I had to vent about my needs and being overwhelmed. Of course, I have had this conversation before and it reverts back after a month or two, because like cars, men need oil changes every 3 months....more