A Letter to Myself on My Wedding Day

I originally wrote this letter for a previous blog of mine. But with our five year anniversary coming up this upcoming weekend, I thought it was fitting to share. I know compared to some couples five years is not huge, but for us, this is our first big “milestone” anniversary. We have fit a lot in our first five years together.  It seems like time has just flown by in a blink of an eye....more

rock bottom - where I saved my marriage

I sat in a makeshift hospital room my bare knees peeking through the thin gown I was provided with. There was no medical equipment, not even a sink or cabinets, just four blank white walls. I felt as though they may as well have put me in a straight jacket and padded the walls. Tucked in the corner of the room situated on the only chair provided  was my mom.  In a pile on the end of hospital bed, which was more like a low to the ground massage table, sat my clothes. I stared down at my goose bump covered legs, my exhausted face stained with tears....more

the fight / choose happiness

the fight / choose happiness--Last night my husband and I got in a fight.Which is weird to say out loud, because even when we do fight, I really only tell my sister or my best friend, Anamarie…not the whole internet....more

The First Time My Husband Hit Me...

I overheard a conversation one day at a restaurant, a woman said to her friend “if my husband ever lays a hand on me, I’m gone.” I can only assume they knew someone who was being abused and were referring to that situation as she offered up her opinion.Funny thing, I’ve always had the same opinion. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’ve said the same thing, until it happened to me....more
Thanks for writing this. I went through something similar before leaving him, and i only told ...more

All The Happy Facebook Couples Drive Me Crazy!

Dear Mouthy Housewives, I'm so sick of all the happy couples on Facebook. I totally love my husband, but I feel like our relationship is crap when I read things like, "Every time I go out with my husband it's like our first date all over again." I definitely don't feel like that after 10 years of marriage! Is there something wrong with us? Or Facebook? Signed, Facebook is Starting to Ruin My Marriage ...more
True! But keep in mind those people just choose to not post the bad moments.more

How My Four Year Old Learned About Gay Marriage

How My Four Year Old Learned About Gay MarriageAs a first time j/k mum I never thought that I would be speaking with my son about gay marriage....more

We are More Than Needed, We are Wanted

I suffer from a severe medical condition and, unfortunately, it takes me to some very dark places.  If I’m being honest, sometimes it feels so unbearable for myself AND my family that I truly and deeply believe they would be better off without me in their lives....more

How loving someone is like moving into a house

When I married Hubby, we didn’t know each other very well. We met one weekend, wrote for nearly a year—continents apart—and then on our first date, he proposed.After that first date, I re-boarded a plane, and we planned a wedding and a future life together long distance. Which meant all our dating and getting to know one another took place after our wedding. ...more

Tale of a Vasectomy Reversal

Here we sit, in a hotel in Muskogee, Oklahoma. Small town USA. It's a brisk 37 degrees outside and we are hunkered down with books and college football, sipping coffee and looking out the window at the rustling maroon and golden trees. We have barely ventured out for two and a half days. Sounds like the Venturous Ventrys aren't so venturous at the moment, doesn't it? OH, BUT WE ARE ON AN ADVENTURE OF A LIFETIME! ...more