What My Parents' Marriage Taught Me About Fighting

Spoiler alert: Not much.My parents have an idyllic marriage. Really. This August they will have been married for 32 years and they still make eyes at each other, kiss in public and hold hands under the table.I can count on MAYBE five fingers the number of times I was aware of them arguing during the 18 years that I lived at home. When you think about it, that's quite something. ...more
Rita Arens Thanks for your comment! I totally agree--I was reminded of that again just today! ...more

Planning Your Destination Wedding 101

So you're tying the knot, and you've decided to take the road less traveled, opting for ocean breezes and picturesque sunset nuptials in the sand. Wedding planning can be stressful and overwhelming no matter where your event is happening, but organizing your big day in an entirely different country comes with its own set of challenges. Here are a few pieces of advice to keep in mind while planning your destination wedding:...more
I live in a great destination wedding town of Lowell, Michigan. There is a good selection of ...more

The Great Housekeeping Slide, 2010-2016

When I was growing up, my family's house was spotless. Maybe not really, especially when my siblings and I were young, but that's how it always seemed to me. That has been the standard to which I've compared myself since the beginning of my adult life. However, it's occurred to me recently that my cleaning and housekeeping habits have...shall we say...evolved over the years. For me, the beginning of marriage and of my adult life occurred at the same time--2010--so this is where I'll begin to describe what I've started to think of as the great housekeeping slide....more

A Spouse's Response to Depression Part 1

Today I share my husband with you. He has willingly offered to write an article explaining what's it like to be married to a spouse who has been diagnosed with Depression. He offers a perspective that not many ever get to hear. Thank you for taking the time to listen to him. God has definitely blessed me over the last 19 years. :)...more

Relationship tips: Communication can be silent, just notice it

There was a moment right after our third daughter was born that I will never forget. Knowing everything I know now, it was a comedy. In the moment, it was one of the sweetest things I had experienced....more

First Comes Love, Then Comes Armageddon

The first real test of our marriage vows arrived ten months after we said them.It was true love. "Isn't she beautiful?" My husband whispered, over and over again, a tear rolling down his cheek. But I just couldn't see it. Truth is, I wanted to set her on fire....more

Where did you meet your match?

My Mother set me up with a guy once when I was in high school. He worked for her, and at the time I didn't realize I was being set up. It was well-intentioned, I have no doubt, but ultimately very weird and awkward for me. So let's not talk about that. ...more

Importance of Self-Care in Marriage

If you asked me 4 years ago what I like to do for self-care, I would have said I don't do anything because I'm not selfish. So it's no surprise that taking care of me fell down on the priority list. So what changed for me? One simple quote, "When you respect yourself, you respect your body." A lightbulb went off....more