What Happens After You Say 'I Do'?

Recently, my girlfriend and I were chatting about our kids and our husbands and she shared how she wished her marriage was as perfect as mine.  I was taken aback because my marriage is a lot of things, but perfect it is not!  If she knew me and my husband right after we were married, she certainly would not characterize my marriage as 'perfect'.During that first year, past relationship baggage and my idealistic expectations of what a husband is supposed to be, had us both wondering if tying the knot had been the right thing to do....more
The last line of this really is the most important part - being committed to each other will get ...more

My Mother Says...continued

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7 Things You Should Never Say to the Wife of a Pornography Addict

Since my husband’s pornography addiction has reared its’ ugly head again, I have reached out to others for encouragement because this is something you do not want to face alone. Well, not all the encouragement has been positive or even nice.  Some people, even Christians, just don’t know how to comfort someone who is facing this problem. Well, to start here are some things not to say. Yes, these things have been said to me by Christians and non-Christians alike....more
I have a very close friend whose husband struggles with a pornography addiction. I'm very glad ...more

She needs that 22 year old to be a man!

I had an interesting conversation with my brother which prompted this post. We were discussing relationships, more specifically his relationship with his girlfriend. They have been seeing each other for about a month, most of that time he was also seeing other girls. In his opinion that’s beside the point. They’re together now....more

Why Unification is the Death of a Marriage

Recently I met with a couple who literally showed up wearing almost matching outfits.  They talked a lot in the framework of “we”.“We like salsa dancing.”“We like Tudor style architecture.”“We call ourselves ‘independents’ politically.”“We are Southern Baptist.”“We decided on cornflower blue for the bathroom.”...more

How to Stay Married

In an interview recently, I was asked the question everyone wants an answer to.  How do couples who stay married do it?   I’m pretty sure the interviewer was looking for a much more profound answer than the one I gave.  However, the truth of the matter is this.  People who stay married do it by not getting divorced....more

Are You Reliving Your Parents' Marriage (The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly)

             Somewhere along the line, we all have to relive our parents’ marriage, mostly the marriage we saw before the age of five.  During those early formative years, our minds were like sponges soaking up everything we heard and saw.  Reliving your parents’ marriage can be good news, if your parents had a happy, healthy, and loving relationship.  On the flip side, if your parents’ marriage was a train wreck, this can be very bad news....more

I'm Getting A Divorce & So Should You.

Yep, you read the title correctly. I'm getting a divorce. Some of you who know me personally are scratching your head in a state of confusion. My mom's jaw probably dropped when she opened her email to this post. I'm on the other side of the screen laughing because it's incredible how a catchy title draws in sooooo many new readers! So, here's the deal: YES, I AM GETTING A DIVORCE. Are you intrigued yet?From MYSELF....more

Can a Marriage Survive an Affair? (A Three-Part Series) Part III

                                   Life After an Affair: Strategies for Saving a MarriagePart III          There are probably few things in life that pack a punch as devastating as the shock of finding out that your spouse has been cheating on you.  Who, what, where, when, and how are the burning questions the scorned ask and ask and, then, ask again… seemingly without end....more

Can A Marriage Survive an Affair? (A Three-Part Series)

                                          Part I : Why Extramarital Affairs are on the Rise           As a relationship coach, I often have couples who come to me because their marriages are falling apart after the discovery that one of the partners is having or has had an affair.  ...more