A lot of our upsets are related to guys and how they hurt, exasperate, and disappoint us. We are constantly obsessing and talking about him. Our moods and sleep and ability to be productive are affected. Change the way you think about him and the relationship and reduce the drain on your nerves and your life.
Stop personalizing what he does
Everything he does isn’t related to you. Kimberly a student from Citrus Heights used to make up stories to explain her boyfriend’s behavior. She decided what his words or behavior meant—that he didn’t c...more
How do we choose a spouse?
Admitting that I have glanced across the dinner table or the other end of the couch into the face of my husband and asked myself “Why you?” does not mean that I am unhappily married. On the contrary. The love and life I have with my husband is exceptional and we have strengths between us that are rivalled by none. Wondering what brought us together and what made us stick stems from my fascination with fate and my interest in subconscious activities. Of all the men, in this great big world, why him?
Hubby and I met in College....more
I hold these truths to be self-evident, that all parents and kids are not created equally, but are wholly individual in personality and style. Regardless of these differences, the basic needs of love, patience and support remain constant....more
Have you ever had a conversation with your spouse only to have it again the next day? Is he forgetful or is he really not listening? Maybe, both. I know that I can tell my husband what we are having for dinner and an hour later he will appear in the kitchen. "Something smells good. What's for dinner?"
I love my husband and it is our ability to laugh about this that led to my newest entry for my blog. Check it out here:
Even in the excitement of new love when you only want to be with him, it’s a big mistake to drift away from your girlfriends. Research is proving what we already knew--that female bonding reduces stress, boosts immunity, and may even account for why women live longer. Women offer comfort and support very differently from a man and no matter how good he treats you, you need connection with other women.
Men are more apt to fight or flee
Studies show that men respond to problems with either aggression or withdrawal whereas women respond more supportively...more
Just the other day I was thinking about the evolution of my OCD. When I was sans husband and children, I had to have everything in a specific order. I had to do everything in a certain sequence. I had a routine for almost everything. I wasn’t too bad though, right?
But now, 11 years into marriage and 2 little boys later, I have learned to quell most of my OCD tendencies. It took a while for them to break me, but they did it....more
Obsessing and worrying about problems and conflicts, confronting and arguing, and seeking advice from friends may lead to sleepless nights, upset stomachs, rashes, headaches, low energy, emotional eating and worse—your whole immune system can go out of whack.
You may be seeking relationship security
Your reptilian brain wired in cave man days believes your survival depends on a man who will love and support you. Research shows that women place the highest value on relationship stability—even more than financial security. Much of the stress in relation...more
As you act like mom--folding his laundry, buying his underwear, making him breakfast, reminding or nagging him daily, the sizzle slowly goes out of your relationship and he has to look for it somewhere else. He may fall in love with work, or fly fishing, or biking but he won’t be excited about you....more
Recently I "celebrated" 18 years of marriage. At a point when so few marriages seem to last for any significant amount of time, you may be hoping I can offer some insights into how I have managed this feat. I believe the key is thinking of husbands in terms of cars. You may wonder what brings about this unusual theory? Well, I have done intense research over these last 18 years, and by "intense research" I mean I have observed and heard my fellow wives' experiences, and I have found husbands all have similar factory defects. I think the secret to surviving marriage is in recognizing that all women discover these warps in their own husbands, no matter which style they selected.
Find out what the new generation of makers, creators and mold-breakers thought of Goldieblox and the American Express #PassionProject, and enter to win a game for the young girl in your life. Read more
We asked 15 bloggers how PAM Cooking Spray helps them spend less time in the kitchen, and more time eating and celebrating with loved ones. Read their tips, tricks and recipes for great holiday cooking with PAM Cooking Spray, and enter to win a $100 Visa gift card. Read more