It's Our 12, 755-Day Anniversary

A good marriage is where both people feel like they’re getting the better end of the deal ―Anne Lamott, Joe JonesI married Steve on June 30, 1979. I was 21 and he was 23. It’s fair to say that we were children and that we didn’t know what we were doing, but we did it anyway. Is that lucky, or what?...more

He's My Home

He’s My Home11 Jul, 2014 at 7:00 am | Written by: Josi SeibertRyan and I celebrated our third anniversary on June 25. Three seems so small, so new.  It reminds me of a 3-year-old walking wobbly on his lil bow-legged legs.  Soon, through (not perfect) practice, he loses his wobble and his legs gain strength.  He becomes less awkward, more confident....more

Mom and Dad Go to the Movies

Before we had our children, Joe and I spent most Saturday evenings at the movies. After our kids were born, our movie dates got fewer and farther between.Today we can always count on a movie on cable or DVR to entertain us and take us out of our parenting roles, if only for a moment. Whether it be a drama, comedy, action flick, current picture, or classic, movies have always provided us with something to talk about in our 21 years of marriage, 15 of them as parents....more

Date night (or day) ... It's not just a cliché!

Remember when you couldn’t wait to spend time together? Remember when you couldn’t wait to dress up, put on make up and look your absolute best for each other? Research shows that happy couples spend time together – and they enjoy it. In a recent survey, 88 percent of happy couples reported they make time for “date nights,” a time that they spend alone together, without children and obligations (Northrup, Schwartz & Witte, 2012)....more

With This Ring

Image courtesy of Metropolitan Museum of Art ...more

Our Final Anniversary After 18 Years of Marriage

My husband and I celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary at a fancy restaurant. After he ordered an expensive bottle of wine, he reached into his pocket and pulled out his gift to me. It was a handwritten list of treasured memories from our marriage. Memories, he said, that reminded him of how much we belonged together....more
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Brides Rethinking Extravagant Weddings

Many brides- to-be are beginning to function in the real world, trading extravagant credit card weddings for an event they can actually afford. These savvy brides are beginning to run their numbers , rearrange priorities and ask questions that really matter....more

Creating Emotional Intimacy -- It's All in the Little Things

As a marriage and family therapist, I frequently hear couples complain that their partner is unresponsive to their needs or  “is never there for them.” Sometimes a partner expresses feeling invisible or unimportant and that he or she is always at the bottom of the priority list. The partner who is being asked to be more responsive is often at a loss for what to do differently....more

A Wedding in the Family

My nephew Matthias is marrying his fiancée Kat tomorrow.Whoa!Where did time go?I was twenty-eight when Matt was born.We have been through”zoomie cars”, stray cats, the family, school, the shore, my cancers,the National Weather Service, Atlantic City train trips,college acceptance….and now, a wedding.Hell, it’s only a nephew:he’s not even my son, although we always were close.I wish the two of them all the love and patience they need for a happy and long marriage, and above all, may they never feel, as my late father-in-law used to quote:...more