My (Almost-Tragic) Hail Story

This is a scene from last Monday. Hubs and I are giddy. It is 88', and humid, the kind of humid you complain about in June, July, and August, but in May, it is all good, baby, in fact it is down right sublime. "Give me more of this stuff!" I yell out at the edge of the deck--I am perched there, reveling in the sensation of sweat--and the words fly back at me atop hot, fat wind. See, along with the humidity, the 7:00 night is cooking up a whole mix of tight, angry air....more

How I Became That Douche Bag's Ex-Girlfriend: A Love Story.

Once upon a time, I was younger. Dumber. Maybe a little prettier. Definitely skinnier. And boy-crazy.  OH MY GOSH. You have no idea how boy-crazy I was. ...more

The Answer I've Been Looking For

I love you. But you make me so mad sometimes! I love you, but you get on my nerves sometimes. You annoy me sometimes. You frustrate me sometimes. You upset me sometimes. BUT, I love you.  Sometimes I think you could measure love by how much the other person frustrates you. I say that because if they frustrate you and you still want to be around them, that must demand a high level of love. ...more

Our Journey

I woke up this morning with you on my mind. You’re always on my mind, but today was sublime…I was thinking about our future together and when that would start. When you would have all of me, and not just my heart. It’s tiring living life as we do. I go day to day without seeing you....more

Walking on Egg Shells

I’m sometimes walking on egg shells with you. I feel like I can’t do anything right.  If I have an emotionless tone, you think I’m mad and have an attitude. If I have an excited and sweet tone, you think I’m talking like a baby. I feel like I can’t win with you—it’s exhausting! You pay so close attention to every slight nuance of my voice. If anything sounds even slightly off, you pick up on it. I don’t want to complain too much, because at least you are paying attention to me, but I just feel constrained. ...more

There’s a Storm a Brewin’ in Minnesota: NOH8MN

Some say the Rapture came to Minnesota last weekend, bringing fear and hatred. In the waning hours of Saturday night, the Minnesota House of Representatives passed a bill that places on the November 2012 ballot the question whether to amend the Minnesota Constitution to ban same-sex marriage. This bill was not passed without a somber, civil, sad fight. All of this happening just 20 minutes from our home, DH & I huddled around my computer listening and watching a live feed from the House Chamber floor....more

Glamour of Business Travel… Uh-Huh

Why is it the first thing you think of when your lover says he has to travel on business is "What about me?" Why is that narcissistic yelp the first thing out of your mouth? Why, no matter how good your relationship is, do you instantly visualize abandonment?  I'm washing my dog at one of those do-it-yourself places, and in the tub next to me is a St. Bernard, whose owners are having this not-too-happy discussion....more

Am I Being Irrational or Reasonable?

Sometimes I act crazy, but I cannot stop myself from acting that way. I feel myself being irrational and acting unfairly, but I cannot control those feelings and actions. I get so frustrated with him over things that I would not care about if other people did the same thing.  I probably treat him unfairly, but I’m not sure if it’s unreasonable. If he is going to be my future husband, then shouldn’t I have higher expectations for him? Or since he is going to be my future husband, should I give him the benefit of the doubt more often? ...more

Loving Him for Him

I expect too much from him—he is only human....more

He Heard Me

Relationships are give and take, but what if no one is giving or taking? What happens when neither person is adding anything to the relationship, but also not taking anything away? When the give and take is gone, does that mean the passion is gone?Is it okay to be in a passionless relationship?  Is lack of passion better than lack of turmoil? Or is the turmoil a signal of engagement in the relationship? ...more