The Courage to Call Off the Wedding

I met Ellen on a flight to New York. She had just called off her wedding, scheduled for Valentine’s Day. Ellen was in her late thirties. This would have been her second marriage.“It’s almost as complicated to call off the wedding as it is to put it together,” she said. “Strange how everyone seems to take my decision personally. My parents, my daughter, my friends and co-workers, all  trying to reassure me that it’s natural to feel nervous before your wedding. I wasn’t nervous. There were red flags, and I paid attention to them."...more

Love: If you're happy and you know it

“Aren’t you happy that I’m happy you’re home?”“Oh yeah. I’m happy,” Mr. T deadpans, without looking away from his computer screen.A few seconds go by.I watch as he then claps twice and gives me a curious little side-eye.A beat passes before I burst into laughter.Image used with permission....more

How to Have an Awesome Valentine's Day When You're Broke

   Hi Ladies, this is a post actually written by my sister but I really needed to share it for her here since we are all women and I knew you would love this! ...more

5 Tips for an Earth-Shattering Orgasm You HAVEN'T Already Tried

My mother used to say, “In a world that is largely focused on male pleasure — the female orgasm is an act of revolution.”Her words have even more resonance in today’s on-demand culture where porn (largely produced, directed, and watched by men) is sometimes the only sex education young men get....more

Dating God and Drinking Pretty Coffee

"I mean... God and I, we hang out all the time but we've never dated before." I uttered this comment in all seriousness but my sister-friend Yvette burst into girlish laughter, tickled by the thought of "dating God." It was an exciting but peculiar thought. I had only twice heard the mention of dating God....more
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But there will always be those who judge us from where we parted, not looking for where we are in the distance.

Where I am and who I am is the totality of where I've been and who I was. Those in my past do not know me though, I am not there anymore. But there will always be those who judge me from where we parted, not looking for where I am in the distance.My life is so different than what I knew before Jason that if feels like I’m living an entirely different life. Where before I knew despair, emptiness, loneliness, helplessness, hopelessness, self-loathing, now I know intimacy so deep it heals me from my core. I never knew I could love and be loved so completely....more

The Nightmare That Woke Me Physically and Spiritually

I'm convinced a messenger visits me in my sleep.  One that comes in the form of a nightmare, sending fear & anxiety like I've never experienced it before.  I awake in a panic, relieved to be awake but impatient to analyze what happened....more

The Marriage Ultimatum

There is nothing wrong with an ultimatum girl....more

It's Too Easy to Get Married

It's easier to get married than it is to get a driver's license or buy a gun.If you want a driver's license, you need to go through driver's education of some sort, then pass a written test and go for a test drive with someone from the Department of Motor Vehicles. For the gun, you must wait 10 days, or whatever the law is in your state, while the authorities run identity checks on you....more

lessons from emily

It's been 70 degrees here in the past couple of days. Not like a warm 70, but a crisp, cool 70.  Does that make sense? We were walking the dog yesterday and Freddie was making fun of me for wearing a jacket when it was 70 outside. I had to explain that 70 degrees can feel very different. A low of 70 is one thing and that one thing is warm. A high of 70 is a tad different....more