Eating At a Buffet of Depression: A Menopausal Banquet of Anxiety

I have been sitting here at my computer—with time just slipping by, staring at my document—pondering on whether or not to write just how I really feel today—far from humorous. Because it is a well known fact, and all that know me will attest, that I am the first to poke fun at me—and of my alter-ego, Menopause, that Banshee, wailer of distress. In these past many days, Menopause has me in the throngs of emotional pain and anguish....more

And then you show up, Melanie, and "ditto" on the same ups-and-downs. Wow! I thank you for ...more

Huma, Don't Be a "Pakistani Good Wife"

Editor's note: After this post was published, the New York Times reported that Huma Abedin is pregnant. More updates below. Now that we’ve all stopped laughing about Weinergate, inquiring minds want to know: what will happen between Rep. Anthony Weiner and his wife? In case you haven’t heard, his missus is, as CNN reports, Not a Typical Congressional Wife, but Huma Abedin, a 30-something Pakistani-Indian American and chief aide to Hillary Clinton....more

I don't care one whit what she does privately. It's not going to be easy one way or the other, ...more

Dr. Romance on Jealousy, Faithfulness and Distance

So many couples are now separated part-or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness.  Your marriage vows may have said, "'til death do us part" but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or traveling job makes it necessary for you to part, and you want to maintain the closeness in your relationship....more

Trading in The Obedient Wife for the Respectful Marriage

Mainstream and social media has exploded with reports of the Obedient Wives Club, an organization that seeks to fight domestic abuse and infidelity by being obedient to one’s husband, entertaining him, dressing up for him, and providing good sex as a spousal duty. The group’s tenets are largely problematic due to concerns about gender equality -- but could they be reworded to truly provide a better foundation for a marriage? ...more
I found the distinction between sex work and relationships to be constructive teaching of both ...more

Comparison of Emily Giffin's "Something Borrowed" movie and book.

Something BorrowedDirected by Luke GreenfieldScreenplay...more

Married Sex

Sarah and Simon had been married five years and together eight.  They had two children, Octavia and Penelope, ages two and four.  Their angels and their succubus.  Sarah and Simon shared a collective post-partum stress disorder that manifested itself in the certainty that their daughters would be felled by whooping cough, kidnapped by infertile women, attacked by the neighbor’s Rhodesian Ridgeback (which are bred to kill lions and small children) or would just generally be short-lived.  ...more

15 Things That Make You Feel Old (and Young)

"Here's your change, ma'am." (Or any sentence involving the word "ma'am.") What else can make you feel old, or -- more importantly -- young? ...more
old: using: oil of olay ear/nose hair trimmer bathrobe young: not ...more

Forgiveness is a four-letter word.

Her name was a four-letter word; it was fitting. It was the same length as her counterparts: hate, fear, lust. I didn't hate her and I didn't fear her. In fact, I wanted to be her. I wanted her in my life regardless of the sacrifice it would take on my behalf. I needed her in my life regardless of how weak I would become....more


Seventeen years ago, 2 very young people made solemn vows to each other in the presence of great friends, family, and loving supporters.  Last night Brian and I watched our wedding video.  Tonight, we will steal away for a few hours to have dinner, reflect upon the last 17 years, and dream about the years to come.   Life lesson:  Milestones are important   Why do we celebrate anniversaries, birthdays, and even mark a day of remembrance we call Memorial Day?  It is so important to set aside time for pointed reflec...more