Prepare To Be Uncomfortable

Recently a client asked me how to tell the difference between the natural anxiety a person has when they’re moving forward into something new and the gut instinct that something is truly wrong for them.  Good question, right?And the answer is: I don’t think you can tell the difference.  At least not right away.Both of those feelings are so profoundly uncomfortable that it’s easy to see why some people stay stuck in the familiar.  As my wise friend Amy Ahlers once told me, “If you are out of your comfort zone, you can expect to feel uncomfortable.”...more

Fragile

Yesterday was a great day. I drove Jack into the city to a children’s museum, and we played and climbed and…well, mostly I chased him. We devoured, in equal parts, a delicious sausage pizza. The wind bit our cheeks as we ran back to the parking garage. And I reveled in moving and playing and driving and inserting my little validated parking ticket in the slot—actions of which I am oddly proud. As I performed them, I was thinking, triumphantly: I’ll never let anxiety stop me from doing what I want to do....more

Thank You...

In appreciation of your patience and continued support, I want to offer my wonderful readers a little something. I have not been able to write as often as I would like, and I know this can be irksome. I have been dabbling with some design work in the hopes of creating some promotional materials for Depression Ever After, and I want to share with you what I have created so far....more

Beware Sanctimony, Condescension and Eye-Rolling

Anytime you catch yourself making sad, sighing or disparaging remarks about “them” or “those people” or “kids today…” you are putting yourself in the perilous position of believing you know better.Which you don’t.Even if you clearly DO – you still don’t. Because we can’t get inside people’s minds, we don’t really know what’s best for other people (we’re not even that accurate about predicting what is best for ourselves) and most of all: have you noticed that your disapproval has absolutely ZERO effect?...more

New Year, Same Me

Last year was my year of grand planning and exciting adventures. I was all ready to set goals and accomplish them only to be foiled by a surprise pregnancy one month in. That was pretty discouraging.This year, there will be no "New Year's Resolutions."...more

Prayer for 2015

Dear God, I thank you for this day in Portland, Oregon. The sky is clear, the sun reflects outside my window on the house across the street. It's crisp and beautiful. I thank you for the comfort of my home....more

Can Women Have it All?

Can women have it all?I have 4 sons ages 19, 16, 13, and 9, a small business, and I'm in nursing school full time.  I feel so fortunate every day that these are the challenges that I get to face and that I have the health, energy, and stamina to do the things I love.  ...more

You Can't Spell Families Without Lies - How Holidays Suck For Dysfunctional Families

From Thanksgiving to Christmas, there is one big, universal push to celebrate, celebrate, celebrate. Buy, buy, buy. Party, party, party. The cute Christmas cards come streaming through the mailbox every day, the school events, recitals, and class party emails start flooding your inbox, and everyone asks about your holiday plans.What are you doing for Christmas? Are you traveling? Are your parents visiting? Are you having company?...more

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and our Military

Supporting veterans has been an integral part of my becoming a social worker and continuing a higher education to provide therapy.  I wanted to become a counselor to work in the field of drug and alcohol addiction. That changed when my boyfriend and I began living together, eventually having our first child and then getting married. We had made a commitment to each other the moment we moved in; we moved in together because we knew this is it! We are committed and there is no going back. We had our son and life felt complete....more

Honor Your Personal History

We all know about the public milestones:The weddings,the birth dates,the bar mitzvahs and the first kisses.But think for a moment about the private anniversaries of your heart:...more