You Can't Spell Families Without Lies - How Holidays Suck For Dysfunctional Families

From Thanksgiving to Christmas, there is one big, universal push to celebrate, celebrate, celebrate. Buy, buy, buy. Party, party, party. The cute Christmas cards come streaming through the mailbox every day, the school events, recitals, and class party emails start flooding your inbox, and everyone asks about your holiday plans.What are you doing for Christmas? Are you traveling? Are your parents visiting? Are you having company?...more

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and our Military

Supporting veterans has been an integral part of my becoming a social worker and continuing a higher education to provide therapy.  I wanted to become a counselor to work in the field of drug and alcohol addiction. That changed when my boyfriend and I began living together, eventually having our first child and then getting married. We had made a commitment to each other the moment we moved in; we moved in together because we knew this is it! We are committed and there is no going back. We had our son and life felt complete....more

Honor Your Personal History

We all know about the public milestones:The weddings,the birth dates,the bar mitzvahs and the first kisses.But think for a moment about the private anniversaries of your heart:...more

How I'm Recovering From The Death of My Son

I lost my son, Gus, to SIDS 7 and a half years ago. It is by far the hardest trial I've ever faced in my life. And recovering from his loss has been a real challenge and one I feel will be ongoing throughout my life. I've been doing a lot of thinking recently about what it was that helped me crawl out of the deepest hole of grief that has ever consumed me and how I became, once again, a functioning human being. This is what I've come up with: ...more

Bill Cosby's Wife Sez

Or, why we all, especially women, need to know the convict part of ourselves. Remember the Penn State/Jerry Sandusky scandal of last year? How easily we forget such things after they move off center stage for the media. But a whole lot of people, the victims, their family and friends, the student body, the administrators and last but not least, the Penn State Board of Trustees, won’t ever forget....more

A Girl's Weekend Doesn't Have to Be Fancy to be Memorable

We had a million reasons why it wouldn’t work. Valid reasons: small children to attend to, small businesses to run, small budgets to take into consideration. And then one of us was diagnosed with breast cancer and suddenly we knew that it had to work, somehow. Even if it was just a forty-eight-hour getaway. Even if it wasn’t on a beach or to some culinary mecca. Because none of that mattered in the end. Just being together, all five of us, converging in the Midwest on a cold and dreary weekend in December – that’s what mattered....more

Blindsided: Learning to Live with a Disability

I wasn't prepared for this. No one told me how to take my personality, my intelligence, my accomplishments, my ambition, my ego and put them all behind a gauzy thick wall that mutes most voices and distorts the sounds of everyday life. The siren could be a whistle or a baby screaming or someone's worn out rear brakes, I won't know until the ambulance crosses the street in front of me....more

Schizo

I never heard of schizophrenia until eighth grade health class.  Along with learning about the dangers of drugs and alcohol and the obligatory, highly embarrassing sex ed curriculum (from which my parents refused to excuse me, despite my entreaties), we plodded through a unit on mental health.  When we covered neuroses, I knew right off that the teacher was talking about me.  But it was the psychoses that were really scary, and I wondered whether I could secretly have one of those....more

What Happened to Tanesha Anderson's Right to Life?

Late last night I came across an article with the headline "Cleveland woman with mental illness died after police used takedown measure, brother says." My heart sank as I clicked on it and read about the death of Tanesha Anderson, a 37-year-old African-American woman who reportedly suffered from bipolar disorder and schizophrenia....more
This is horrifying.more

Grateful for friendships ...

Do you ever feel stretched too thin?Sometimes I feel that way.I feel as though my heart wants to do so so much and so my head jumps in fully and then before I know it too much gets lost along the way.And then there's so much to do and so many things to think about and suddenly ...I stop.I stop it all.I hole up a bit.I freeze.I go off track.Try not to be found....more