The Things I Can Never Say To My Love

What can I say to you? What can I say to make you understand?I am the most guilty. I am guilty of saying the wrong things, and not saying the things that should be said. I am guilty of yelling and screaming, confronting and accusing, and not loving nearly enough. What can I say to my love, who weathers the storm, time and time again?...more

Suicidal Student Kicked Out Of Dorm Because He Might Negatively Impact Other Students

TW: talk of suicideImagine this: a student living in a university residence contacts his Residence Life don. He has fallen and injured himself, and there is blood everywhere. He is afraid he might die. He needs help.Surely in this scenario the don would seek immediate assistance for the student. They would bring him to a clinic or perhaps a hospital. Once the student had recovered, they would welcome him back to residence – maybe even put up a banner or throw a little party.Certainly the student would not be asked to leave the residence....more

Prepare To Be Uncomfortable

Recently a client asked me how to tell the difference between the natural anxiety a person has when they’re moving forward into something new and the gut instinct that something is truly wrong for them.  Good question, right?And the answer is: I don’t think you can tell the difference.  At least not right away.Both of those feelings are so profoundly uncomfortable that it’s easy to see why some people stay stuck in the familiar.  As my wise friend Amy Ahlers once told me, “If you are out of your comfort zone, you can expect to feel uncomfortable.”...more


Yesterday was a great day. I drove Jack into the city to a children’s museum, and we played and climbed and…well, mostly I chased him. We devoured, in equal parts, a delicious sausage pizza. The wind bit our cheeks as we ran back to the parking garage. And I reveled in moving and playing and driving and inserting my little validated parking ticket in the slot—actions of which I am oddly proud. As I performed them, I was thinking, triumphantly: I’ll never let anxiety stop me from doing what I want to do....more

Thank You...

In appreciation of your patience and continued support, I want to offer my wonderful readers a little something. I have not been able to write as often as I would like, and I know this can be irksome. I have been dabbling with some design work in the hopes of creating some promotional materials for Depression Ever After, and I want to share with you what I have created so far....more

Beware Sanctimony, Condescension and Eye-Rolling

Anytime you catch yourself making sad, sighing or disparaging remarks about “them” or “those people” or “kids today…” you are putting yourself in the perilous position of believing you know better.Which you don’t.Even if you clearly DO – you still don’t. Because we can’t get inside people’s minds, we don’t really know what’s best for other people (we’re not even that accurate about predicting what is best for ourselves) and most of all: have you noticed that your disapproval has absolutely ZERO effect?...more

New Year, Same Me

Last year was my year of grand planning and exciting adventures. I was all ready to set goals and accomplish them only to be foiled by a surprise pregnancy one month in. That was pretty discouraging.This year, there will be no "New Year's Resolutions."...more

Prayer for 2015

Dear God, I thank you for this day in Portland, Oregon. The sky is clear, the sun reflects outside my window on the house across the street. It's crisp and beautiful. I thank you for the comfort of my home....more

Can Women Have it All?

Can women have it all?I have 4 sons ages 19, 16, 13, and 9, a small business, and I'm in nursing school full time.  I feel so fortunate every day that these are the challenges that I get to face and that I have the health, energy, and stamina to do the things I love.  ...more

You Can't Spell Families Without Lies - How Holidays Suck For Dysfunctional Families

From Thanksgiving to Christmas, there is one big, universal push to celebrate, celebrate, celebrate. Buy, buy, buy. Party, party, party. The cute Christmas cards come streaming through the mailbox every day, the school events, recitals, and class party emails start flooding your inbox, and everyone asks about your holiday plans.What are you doing for Christmas? Are you traveling? Are your parents visiting? Are you having company?...more