I count often during the day. I count steps whether I’m going up or down, I count how many steps it takes to get to the laundry room, and while I sit on the toilet, I count how many tiles line the bathroom floor. I don’t remember the numbers; they’re irrelevant, I’m not measuring or keeping track. I have a constantly-multitasking abacus mind.
Recovery from a mental health condition is a complex and difficult journey that can be a full time endeavour. It's not a a linear process; but full of blips and struggles as well as triumph and success. Recovery can be hard enough without unhelpful (even if well meaning) comments or conversations. Here is a collection of the types of things people in recovery wish you wouldn't say to them! This list was compiled initially thinking about recovery from an eating disorder, but a lot of the comments apply to other conditions as well....more
I am a wife, a stay-at-home mom, a writer, and a comedian.And, finally, after far too long, I am also an advocate for mental health.You see, I am a medicated momma. And I am tired of being ashamed....more
Some nights, taking care of your mental health means vanilla scented candles and a long bath. On other nights, taking care of your mental health means forcing yourself to do your fucking laundry. I’m in the middle of the first depressive episode I’ve had in nearly a month — in a new city I just moved to, far from the people I’ve known my whole life. I try not to work on these pieces while in such a bad mindset because, well, they usually turn out to be bummers. ...more
The heat makes me feel the way I do when I’m having an anxiety or panic attack... Basically, it's awful. Everyone hates the cold, right? This girl doesn’t! For as long as I can remember, I’ve been intensely affected by heat and the sun.Passing out (or feeling like I’m going to pass out) has been an on-and-off-again summertime occurrence....more
You know how, sometimes, you find yourself overwhelmed by the sheer number of items on your To-Do List, and you wonder how you’ll find the time to get it all done and not let any of the balls drop and all you can do is cry while your husband stares at you like you grew a third head? You know how, sometimes, you have those dreams where that To-Do List creeps in and manifests itself as a giant cheese grater, chasing you down a never ending hallway and you look down and see that you’re clutching your favorite pair of jeans from 12th grade?...more
I will never be able to diet freely. I have given up that right. A diet will always be lethal to me. It will always be something that will likely spiral into full blown restriction. They say it takes a certain amount of days to create a new habit. For me, one day can make a difference. What happens today will mimic tomorrow. The slightest decrease or increase can spark a change in my eating habits....more
I no longer have the "I don't know what to do for self-care" excuse because I have an entire box of things I can utilize at any moment.
I think everyone, whether they have a mental illness or not, knows what it's like to be in total despair and have no idea what to do about it. You're curled up in bed, you don't want to move, and you desperately wish you knew how to make things better.
While I don't have the cure to depression (damn, I really wish I did), there are a few tricks that have helped me when I reached that now what? moment.
Any pet can help with mental health, really. But in my case, it was a cat.I was living alone after a bad breakup that had shattered me, mind and spirit. After moving twice, once from another state and once from an apartment complex after I lost the job that paid for it.I was damaged, and I was alone, in the upstairs of a small house in a small town. I asked my landlady if I could have a cat. She was dubious, but said yes....more