A Layman’s Guide To Managing Fear Popular Reviews

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How We Seek Validation, and the Value of Self Approval

As I sat in my therapist’s office last week, a small truth began to unfold before my eyes.“I guess I’ve just always been looking for validation,” I said.Learning.Growing....more

My P90X / Insanity Hybrid Journey Day 1

Aug 19th, 2013   height: 5'2   weight: 135   goal weight: 125 (healthy & toned not starved) 8:15 a.m.  Last night was my last sip of red wine for a couple of days.  I know that sounds crazy ridiculous to some but for me the thought of not having a glass of red wine before dinner and during dinner causes some anxiety.  I write this blog mostly for myself to keep me journaling and accountable.  I don't care to share my journey really because I fear my failure.  I normally start a new program and quit.  I used...more

Is Your Inner Child Stomping Her Foot?

Ten Lies Depression Tells You

1. You are a bad person who deserves bad things.2. You are unhappy because you are lazy or lacking in willpower. Happiness is a choice, a choice that you have failed to make. Somehow, somewhere over the course of your lifetime, when faced with some metaphysical fork in the road, you chose the wrong path. You brought this curse down on yourself....more
This is such a true and powerful list. Thank you so much for sharing it!more

Heal It Your Way

first published at The Five Facets, April 28, 2010 Every day, loss and healing occur all around us.My eighteen-year-old son is currently experiencing loss in the form of a break-up with his girlfriend of two years.On a grander, more serious scale, hundreds, if not thousands, are entering the journey from loss to healing after the recent tragedies in West Virginia and Iceland....more

On Grief: First You Have to Pick the Lemons, Then You Have to Cut an Onion

After my son died twenty-three years ago, I spent a great deal of time talking to people, listening to them, and reading their stories, all in the hopes of finding the inspiration to heal. I heard platitudes that abound in all areas of everyday life: “Time heals all wounds.” “You’re young; you can have more children.” “When God closes one door, he opens another.” “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle.” During different types of loss, I’ve heard other hackneyed phrases like, “It happened for a reason,” and “Maybe you’re better off this way.” ...more
@StellaG  Stella, your reply made me smile. Thanks for reading and sharing and responding!I am ...more


When BlogHer asked me to speak at their annual conference on a panel called Mental Health in the Online Space, I wasn’t entirely sure what to expect. For one thing, I’ve never spoken at a conference before, and for another, I’m hardly a professional when it comes to talking about mental health. I mean, sure, I have lots of thoughts and opinions and feelings about it, and I feel pretty comfortable writing about my own experiences, but I’m by no means an expert. In fact, when I first received the invitation to speak I was sure that BlogHer had sent it to me by mistake....more

Putting My Life Online is Not Easy, But It's Worth Doing

I talk about having PTSD and going to therapy and having anxiety and all that because I need to. I need to know that it's out there. I wear my heart on my sleeve because I have to.  I have to because I'm exceptionally good at hiding things unless I force myself to reveal them. ...more
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A Note on Reparative Therapy: "I'm Still Gay & Now, I'm Depressed."

By Dr. Jami WilderThe bottom line on reparative therapy (aka conversion therapy) is:It doesn’t work.It is wickedly harmful.Period. End of story.And here’s why:1. It doesn’t work: The consensus of nearly every reputable major health organization in the country is that reparative therapy, or therapy designed to change a person’s sexual orientation, is ineffective. Research across several disciplines concludes the same thing....more