Who Would You Rather Be From 8 To 5: The Invisible Woman, or the 50 Foot Woman?

(This won't be grammatically perfect, nor will it be typo-free.  I've been there, done that, all week, all month, all year, for nearly five years at my workplace, and it's Friday evening and I'm tired.)  It was 5:20 this evening when I first started to think about the Invisible Woman vs. the 50 Foot Woman. It began like this......more

Midlife Cabernet: When Mom Sang "Que Sera, Sera"

 I was 7-years-old the first time I saw my mother cry. She leaned against the kitchen counter with her face pressed into a gingham tea towel, and I didn't know what to do because it was my fault she was sobbing. She had returned from the hospital and told me she "lost the baby" and I yelled at her to go find it. I didn't understand what had happened....more

“Not now kids, I am watching the Walton’s.”

My son came up to me the other day and informed me his phone no longer worked.I gave him a look like, “What do you want me to do about it?” (As if I didn’t know the answer to that.)He gave me a look like, “Grab the keys, mom; we need to go and buy me a new one!” (With no upgrade in site.)I, knowing the importance of a teenager having a phone, suggested on a compromise for awhile. A phone that merely talks and texts?God forbid! He’d rather have nothing.And that’s what he has, moping around the house like he has lost his best friend…...more

Choosing Teams for the Game of Life

Until recently, I was pretty clear where I stood and why— firmly and proudly with Team Make it Happen. There’s another team, Team Meant to Be. We’re the doers, they’re the believers. They accept, we activate. They hope. We hike. And obviously, we’re the superior team.A funny thing happened on my way to judging and dismissing Team Meant to Be. I realized they might have something. Something I wanted, and maybe even needed. Perhaps it was time to change the way I play....more
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Questions Adult Children Need to Ask Their Parents

Little Mama had some surgery last week and being the dutiful (and only) daughter, I was right by her side to see her through it. It was also the first time she’s had anything major happened since before my  dad passed which means I was the one “in charge”.  When my dad was alive he was a classic type-a person....more

7 Things Your Mother Needs To Hear you Say

When I was a child, my mother was the center of my universe.She seemed to alight from high, and softly land in all the right places.She never raised her voice, and never ever raised her hand....more

Perimeno - What?

In my head I'm forever 29, give or take a few years.  When I pass by a mirror, however, I'm often surprised at my reflection, because that is NOT what 29 looks like.  Whatever...being young is a state of mind, right?  Don't get me wrong, I'm not unhappy with my age or with getting older.  I have learned so much from my past experiences and I am much more comfortable in my own skin now. But most days I still FEEL like I'm 29....more

Turning 50 & Ageing Disgracefully as Best I Can

Wishing all you 50-somethings a:...more

Midlife Cabernet: Please Don't Pee on the Seat

That yell heard yesterday in the Minneapolis Airport was me in the women's bathroom. In a hurry to visit the restroom before changing planes, I dashed into the first open stall, quickly arranged the paper halo around the seat, and then unwittingly sat in the residue of a squatter - those intrepid women who think they can avoid germs by hovering over the toilet and doing their business without sitting down. This physical act required thigh muscles of a wrestler and accurate aim seen only in "The Hunger Games."...more
That is why I (almost) always grab a handful of paper, wipe the seat then do the rest of the ...more