Letter to My Future Teenage Daughters

My daughters are only seven and nine years old this year, but I think a lot these days about what they will be like when they are teenagers. It doesn’t feel like that long ago that I was a teenager myself; the tumultuousness of that time is still ripe in my memory. If only I had turned to my own parents as allies rather than pushing against them during those challenging years, perhaps I could have faced the changes in my body, mind and world with more grace. Instead, I survived rather than thrived – a fate I do not wish upon my own children....more

I Was 9 Months Pregnant When My Mom Died

The phone rang and my body tensed, just as it had for the last two days whenever the phone rang. I was waiting for the call. The one where the voice on the other end of the line would tell me, "She's gone, Jacqui. Mom died."...more
I had lost my parents in one of the accident; I was about 8-9 years old. I didn’t get the chance ...more

The Baby Stage I Forget Every Time

Every time I become a mother again, there's something I forget: a certain stage babies go through.See that gray area? I always forget about the stage right there, in the middle. I like to call this the "How are you still alive?!" stage. And it has arrived....more

How to Have a Helpful Conversation Online About Motherhood

It's a conversation about motherhood. With every voice invited to this conversation, it gets a little more real — more honest, more raw, more revolutionary, more alive. With that invitation, though, comes an unspoken call for responsibility. When you insert yourself into the conversation, are you positively contributing or are you detracting from its ultimate mission? ...more

Motherhood as a Spiritual Path: A New Kind of Enlightenment

The pursuit of enlightenment is usually seen as something you do on your own or with other seekers, separated from family life - and so it has been the least accessible to mothers who are in most cases tied to their family. In my book Enlightenment Through Motherhood I illustrate how motherhood is a path that leads to a new kind of enlightenment, one where we embrace all parts of our humanity - heavenly and earthly, rational and emotional, masculine and feminine....more

The Bitter Sweet Goodbye

7 ways to tell that you're a second time mom

Being a first time mom can be scary. There are so many unknowns, and all of the angst surrounding consistency and colour of your baby's poop, length of naps and how much milk she's getting fill up your world. Then that baby grows up a little, and you have another....more

What to do when someone tells you to "Enjoy every moment"

I have a beef. I know. Shocking, right?My issue is with the older women who see me walking around with baby C, or the Threenager or, even worse, BOTH of them, and they smile knowingly and say to me, "Enjoy every moment. It will be over before you know it!"Jesus Christ....more

Why I Am Proud to Say I Wear Mom Jeans

From TheSoccerMomBlog.comWhile browsing Pinterest a couple days ago, I came across a pin that blared “Gap and Old Navy Make MOM Jeans!!”  Intrigued, I clicked through to the original blog post.  The writer had apparently done lots of “research,” trying on numerous pairs of jeans from Gap and Old Navy, photographing herself wearing them, and comparing the results to those of her backside in various luxury denim labels....more

Still Grieving

I need to come clean.  My last post was about “living courageously,” but I’m finding that to be much more difficult than I had anticipated.  Despite my best efforts to be strong and happy and brave, I am actually feeling very broken and weak and tired....more